Be Careful What You Wish For

I’m sharing a post with you today, ‘Be careful what you wish for’ from Ros Kitson who is a Kinesiologist.  Ros was a guest in my Be My Guest Interview Series some time ago and we talked about her writing another post for you on something a bit different.

So let me introduce you to the lovely Ros and then she will share her thoughts with you.

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Ros is passionate about personal development. After suffering from depression in the late nineties, she discovered various holistic therapies and found that she could get better without taking medication. She has continued to get better ever since and now is living a happy and healthy life, helping others do the same.

She discovered kinesiology during her recovery and immediately knew it was the one for her. Having received kinesiology treatments for many years, and now has been offering them for many years, she is still in awe of how insightful and effective it is.

Ros has been qualified since 2006 and works from the Wellbeing Centre in Newbury, Berkshire and Herongate Leisure in Hungerford, Berkshire.

Over to Ros …

We all know about the law of attraction – we attract what we put out into the universe.  And I’m guessing most of the readership of this blog will put this into action as consciously as they can in their lives.

However sometimes we find we don’t seem to be receiving what we want even though we think we’re doing all the right things.  Or we can’t seem to get ourselves to do the things we know we ought to be doing.

The thing I’ve noticed as a healer running her own business is that I manifest things much quicker these days than it ever used to.  However, this means that I manifest things I put out there in passing when I didn’t really mean to.  Last autumn, I decided I needed a bit of a break as I’d been a bit unwell but my business practically dried up for 2 months.  I’d meant just a week, or maybe 2!  Then recently I moved house and my time was justifiably taken up with packing and unpacking.  This time I was a bit more careful with my thoughts but I did want more time and the client hours still dropped for that period.

Be careful what you wish for as the universe will be delighted to grant you it.

When we start in self-employment, fears can come up that have previously lain hidden.  Suddenly we are responsible for everything and often we are working by ourselves for a lot of the time.  I had many of these fears, so I’d make excuses for not taking action.  These fears, often subconscious were drawing me in the opposite direction from where I was saying I wanted to be going.  And as the fears were pretty strong, guess which direction won?

So during those times of safety at home, I worked on myself.  I worked on removing the fears.  I worked on learning who I was and building the confidence to put myself out there exactly as I am.  And I’m pleased to say that as I got more confident, I began to take different actions which produced different and better results.

For ages, I thought I could hide behind these fears;  I thought I could make my business a success without dealing with them.  How wrong I was.

I looked at what other people were doing and if they seemed to be getting results quite easily, I’d wonder if I should copy them.  Firstly I failed to appreciate how much energy they were probably putting into their business.  And secondly these activities were often not authentic to who I am.  Please note that what is one person’s truth is often not authentic for another person.  If it is not authentic for you, it won’t bring positive results.

I totally believe that in order to be a success in the world of healing and personal development, we need to be aligned with our higher truth.  Most of us are doing this work because we feel called to and the universe seems to demand impeccability in this industry.

This means that once we’ve cleared the fears, we have to dig deep and find out what we are being called to do.  Once the fears have been reduced, this can be easily done by sitting quietly and meditating on the subject.

However, putting these ideas into action may well bring up new fears.  That seems to be quite normal as we continue to push ourselves out of our comfort zones to be more and better in our service.

This isn’t some airy-fairy idea.  If we are not aligned with what we are saying we want, we won’t be taking the same action with the same intention as if we were.

I wonder whether I would have offered to write this guest blog and then written it the same afternoon, if this was a few years ago.  I would think probably not.  Fears would have possibly caused me to procrastinate.

So, if you are taking action but not getting results, I invite you to do some work on yourselves, either on your own or with a fellow coach or therapist.

Thanks Ros, for spending some time with us. It’s been great having you here.  Time and time again I hear clients comparing and trying to be like others, when they just need to be their fabulous selves!

What do you think?  Leave a comment in the box below.

Speaking of wishing – do you wish you had more money coming into your coaching business?

When I started out as a new coach I needed to get my name out there in the local area, I wanted to share what I did with others but found it really hard to find clients to work with.  I set up some group coaching sessions called Cappuccino Coaching Sessions and absolutely loved them!

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Working with a small group of people at a time I was able to help people create change, build my reputation (and coaching skills) and start making some money from it.  (Imagine the programme ‘Friends’ with some fabulous coaching thrown in and that gives you a flavour of what they are like) I also then went on to get paying clients from it so it was a win:win.  I now run an online group coaching programme called Cappuccino Coaching Club where I give you all the tools, hints, tips and support that you need to run your own sessions. Come and join a lovely group of coaches who are out there starting to run their own sessions and loving it!

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Be My Guest … Ros Kitson (Interview Series)

Today’s Be My Guest interview is with a lovely lady called Ros Kitson who is a Kinesiologist.  Knowing nothing whatsoever about Kinesiology I had a treatment with Ros a while back to find out what it was all about and it was absolutely fascinating what she was able to tell me about myself.  I felt so much better after working with her.

Ros is passionate about personal development. After suffering from depression in the late nineties, she discovered various holistic therapies and found that she could get better without taking medication. She has continued to get better ever since and now is living a happy and healthy life, helping others do the same.

She discovered kinesiology during her recovery and immediately knew it was the one for her. Having received kinesiology treatments for many years, and now has been offering them for many years, she is still in awe of how insightful and effective it is.

Ros has been qualified since 2006 and works from the Wellbeing Centre in Newbury, Berkshire and Herongate Leisure in Hungerford, Berkshire.

1. Describe yourself in 3 short, fab and fun sentences

I’m passionate about wellbeing and personal development. Having greatly improved my own life over the years, I’m now committed to helping other people transform theirs. I’m a light hearted and fun person who can often be seen treading the amateur boards or local shows.

2. What motivated you to become an entrepreneur?

A desire to be my own boss; to be able to choose exactly how I live my life each day. Also, I wanted to do this job and it’s very difficult to be a holistic therapist any other way. I’ve loved it, but it has definitely been challenging. There have been times when I’ve wished someone else made some of the decisions, but those times haven’t lasted long.

3. Who has been your biggest inspiration in business?

I’m inspired by people who are running a successful business while being 100% in their truth. You can tell instinctly from someone’s energy if they are doing this. I’m never been someone who could compromise my values for the sake of making money so it’s always brilliant to see that others can make authenticity work in self-employment.

4. What’s the best business advice you’ve ever been given?

To be completely authentic. If people are going to buy from me, then they need to trust me. If I’m not being completely authentic in myself, then people will pick up on that and something won’t feel right to them. I would definitely pass this advice on, particularly to anyone following a life-purpose career.

5. What three tips would you give when trying to manage emotional issues?

Wow! Just three? I have a whole blog on this subject.

Firstly, be honest with yourself that you’re not managing as well as you’d like. If we try to pretend we’re OK when we’re not, then we’re heading for trouble.

Secondly, identify what you need, both practically and emotionally, and take steps to get these things. It might be you need some time out before you tackle the practical details. You might need a friend to turn to when you’re feeling low. It might be that you need professional help to sort out the problem. It might be that you need to make some changes in your life to be free of things that no longer serve you.

And thirdly, be gentle with yourself. Sometimes, we just don’t manage. We’re all on a journey; maybe you needed to learn something from the experience. Maybe that opportunity wasn’t right for you at that time.

6. What are the three biggest mistakes that people make when they’re stressed?

The first one is reaching for chemical “crutches”. Things like cigarettes, coffee or chocolate. Or even alcohol or processed food. All these unhealthy substances put more stress on our bodies. The reason we like using them is that they distract us from the problems we’re facing. However the problems will still be there afterwards and we’ll be in a worse place from which to deal with them.

Secondly, projecting our stress on to others. What I mean when I say this is that sometimes we see a situation as being someone else’s fault rather than owning our own feelings. If we own that we feel angry, jealous or out of control, then we are in a place to make a change. We can look at changes we can make in order to feel happier and calmer. If we focus on someone else being at fault, we are powerless as we can’t change another person.

And finally, constantly moaning about our situation. Please don’t confuse this with sharing how you feel with a friend. It is important to be able to be open. What I’m referring to, is those people who constantly have an air of negativity about them; those who never seem to have anything happy to say. What you put out, you attract, so these people will generally attract more negativity and things will spiral downwards. It is always possible to break out of the cycle, but it starts with you.

7. What is your favourite strategy for feeling happy and healthy?

Only put good things in and get rid of everything that doesn’t serve us.

This includes the food we put in our bodies; the more natural and organic, the better and also our environments, which can be full of toxins. Think about the ingredients in your skin care products, chemicals in cleaning products and air pollutants.

However this doesn’t stop there. Our physical clutter affects us. Are you hoarding negative or sad memories from your past? Who are the people you interact with? Do they make you feel good about yourself or do they drag you down? Think about the activities we spend our time on and whether they are things we look forward to or things we dread.

This covers a huge topic, but if you make just one change in one area, you will start to see improvements in your life.

8. There are so many different therapies, how do I know which one to choose?

We are all different and as such, we like to work differently on our health. Some people like to work emotionally, some prefer physical therapies. And there will always be therapists we connect with and those who we don’t, even if we can’t really put a finger on why.

The Wellbeing Centre, where I work has a large selection of therapists and has a growing website and blog with useful information on how to choose. Our receptionists are available to talk things over with you as well.

If you are still confused, I suggest you follow your instincts. If we put out to the universe that we want someone to help us with a particular problem, we usually find someone appropriate to our needs appears.

9. Is there anything else you’d like to share?

I used to be one of those people who walked around under a personal rain cloud. If I can transform my life into the joyous and fulfilled experience it is today, then anyone can. I’m not different from anyone else in this, but I am able to help and support people who wish to make changes and absolutely love doing so.

10. If I wanted to connect and/or work with you where would I find you?

I work at The Wellbeing Centre in Pound Street, Newbury and at Herongate Leisure in Charnham Park, Hungerford. I can be contacted on 01635 581682 or roskitson@googlemail.com. I write a blog on emotional health at www.roskitson.co.uk.

Ros has kindly shared a fab eBook called ‘A Guide To Our Emotions’, it makes fascinating reading.  To grab your copy just pop on over to the Freebies page where you will also find other freebies to download.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this interview.  Thanks Ros for spending some time with us and for sharing some insights.

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