What Stories Are You Telling Yourself?

In today’s blog post, I will talk about fear and shares a simple exercise to help you work through your fears in business.

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Running a business can be scary. The trouble is, we can also make it SO much scarier than it needs to be.

We can create ‘stories’ around our business that don’t serve us.

If you want to be successful in business, you want to have stories that empower you, rather than disempower you.

For most business owners, the thought of showing up and being visible can feel really uncomfortable. It can make you feel anxious, and sometimes even physically sick. Your mindset monkeys can get in the way and you might be asking yourselves things like:

  • What if they think my service/ offering isn’t good enough?
  • What if I market my services and nobody wants to work with me?
  • What if people don’t like me?
  • What if they judge me for what I put out there?
  • What if I’m successful?
  • What if I’m a failure?

Let me ask you something different:

  • What if the opposite is true?
  • What if your work is good enough?
  • What if people do like you and do want to work with you?
  • What if you do become a success?

What you’re telling yourself every day is building on your story. Let’s talk about the story you might be creating in your biz right now. Maybe this is what you’re telling yourself:

  • I have to work really hard
  • It’s challenging getting new clients
  • I find technology really challenging
  • Sales conversations are awkward
  • I never have enough time to do all I need to do
  • I take two steps forward and one step back
  • I’m going to have to go back and get a ‘proper’ job

Let’s shine a light on all of this fear, so that you can step into the successful business owner that you want to be.

Here’s a simple exercise for you:

Write down any of the fears that come up for you as you think about your business. These are all becoming your story, and we want to create a much more fabulous story instead!

Once you have a list of your fears, now you can start to do something about them.

I developed an acronym of FEAR, which was inspired by a coach I used to work with. She used, “I see you, I acknowledge you, I release you.”

Here’s what FEAR stands for and how you use the exercise:

F – Feelings – get into the feelings that are coming up for you and write them down
E – Express – read them out loud
A – Acknowledge – that it’s okay to have those feelings, thank them for showing up and choose to view things differently going forward
R – Release – Choose to release them one by one, by focusing on each one and saying “I choose to release you now” as you cross each one off the list

Here’s how it works in practice:

What you’ve written: “I have to work really hard in my business…”

Feeling: Mine is you have to work really hard, that brings up a feeling of anxiety in my tummy, it makes me feel worried that I won’t be able to do the other things that I want to do. (You can write the feeling if you want, or just feel into it – if you can. I often have to ‘think’ into it, but I do know if I really think about the issue it does bring up some kind of sensation/feeling for me)

Express: I have to work really hard to be successful in my business – say this statement out loud

Acknowledge: Say “Thank you for bringing this fear to my attention. I acknowledge you” (your mind is trying to protect you by bringing up this fear), acknowledge that this is how you feel. It’s okay for you to feel that way.

Release: I choose to release you now, cross it off the list. You can even say ‘Rubbish’ or ‘Nonsense’ or whatever word works for you to release any power it has over you. It’s SO freeing! You could even burn or shred the piece of paper, whatever works for you.

Now sometimes the fears don’t come back, but I’ve found that sometimes they are persistent and will still be there which is where we can then dig a bit more. The more you work on your fear, the easier you can clear it.

So, it’s time to let it all go and start creating a new, more empowering story.

Don’t let fear stop you from sharing what you do with the world. You’ve been given gifts and talents that people need you to share!

Your call to action: Shine the light on your fears by writing them out and working through them.

Here’s a link to my Fabulous Resource Centre: http://bit.ly/FabResCtr You’ll also get access to lots of other biz resources too!

Be Inspired To Be Visible In Your Biz

Today I’m sharing a case-study – I want you to be inspired to be visible in your biz. It’s amazing what you can achieve when you put your mind to it!

Let me introduce you to Nina Warden, founder of Be Beautiful Hair & Beauty. Nina is on a mission to give women back some well deserved “me-time”. She loves all things hair and beauty and believes it is so much more than just looking good, it’s also about feeling AMAZING too and letting your confidence shine.

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Nina initially had a few 1:1 coaching sessions with me and then she signed up for my Rock Your Visibility Bootcamp. Let me share with you what she has to say about being visible in her business…

 “Prior to working with Ruby, I wasn’t being visible at all; and I do mean at all! One of the first questions Ruby asked me was, “How visible are you offline?” The truth was, I was completely invisible! Yes, I was being super visible online, but offline, no, nothing, nada, zero! Since working with Ruby and doing her programme; Rock Your Visibility Bootcamp, I have had some amazing results!  It gives you the perfect combination of both mindset and business and I can honestly say, I have achieved so much more than I ever dreamed I would.

So, the time had come, something had to change! It wasn’t easy, but my ethos was, that never anything worth doing ever is, so I worked really hard to put myself out there, step up and be brave.”

With some gentle nudging, accountability in the group and some of the Rock Your Visibility Bootcamp learnings Nina started to shine. She took action, even when she wasn’t sure how it would work out, or on days when she had a wobble.

“I feel really proud of all I have achieved. I even attend regular networking meetings, and if someone had said to me, six months ago, that I would be attending networking meetings, I wouldn’t have ever believed them!”

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“The same way that I wouldn’t have believed that I would win a Therapist of the Month award from my Tanning company.”

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“The same way that I wouldn’t have believed I would be asked to write in a Professional Hair & Beauty magazine, twice in two months and be featured on the same page as my mentor.

“Nor would I of believed I would be a part of raising over three and a half thousand pounds as part of a charity event that my business hosted, alongside some friends, that was then featured in the local paper.”

Nina also put herself forward to raise money for charity. After raising a fabulous amount of money she took it one step further, she asked the local paper if she could get a bit of PR with a photo of the cheque being handed over. She was super excited to go to the bank to get the enormous cheque made out for £3664.00!

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“But do you know something? Ruby and her programme have given me the confidence to believe that I can do it! So thank you Ruby, for believing in me, kicking my butt when I was scared (all with a kind heart) and for making me see that I can totally rock my visibility!”

And you really can Nina, you are seriously inspirational! Keep going out there and Rocking Your Visibility!

Inspired? This could be you! Whether you run an online or offline business, being visible is THE best way to make your business work for you.

I’m running a super duper one week CRAZY offer on my signature programme, Rock Your Visibility Bootcamp, where I’m offering 20 spots at 75% off the full price. That’s just £250 instead of the usual £997. Grab your spot here. (Offer expires Monday 11 July 2016 at 6pm BST)

It’s time to get your business visible too!

Are You Building Your Business By Being Vain?

In today’s post, I’m talking about some of the things you should be measuring in your business, instead of those that aren’t really a true reflection of what’s going on.

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Mirror, mirror on the wall. Who’s the fairest of them all?

Why you are, of course, but not because of the number of Facebook page likes that you have.

We all have those things in business that make us feel good – maybe it’s the size of your newsletter list, or perhaps it’s the number of likes you have on Facebook.

Honestly, these are just vanity stats.

Vanity stats aren’t giving you a true and accurate reflection of what’s really going on in your business

What you have to be constantly thinking about is whether those people are actually your ideal clients. At the time of recording I’ve got an ok 1,000 plus likes on my Facebook page, but that doesn’t mean those people are my ideal clients, it doesn’t mean they will ever buy anything from me, and it doesn’t mean that they will engage in my content either.

I hear people spending money on boosting their Facebook page likes and wonder why? Is it because it makes us look good, raises our visibility, gives us credibility? Well I guess there is an element of that, but wouldn’t it be much more exciting to be engaging with people that totally get and love you and what you do, rather than those that are a bit meh, they can take or leave you? That would feel so much better, don’t you think?

I’d know I’d rather have 200 likes on my page that love what I do than loads of people on there that aren’t my ideal clients. So, if you’re someone paying for them, I’d say don’t. Let your page grow organically like I have.

Despite growing my page organically though I still don’t know if they are my ideal clients. So what to do? Keep encouraging them to visit your website, through a little PS call to action at the bottom of your posts, or sharing some blog posts etc. Invite them to sign up to your mailing list by giving away some valuable freebie that showcases your work. The people on your list are interested in what you do, they’ve given you their email addresses – which is actually a very big thing these days with the amount of noise in our inboxes.

Look after those people on your list

give them additional information that you aren’t sharing elsewhere, or perhaps let them see it before others do.

What about those newsletters? Are you worrying about your numbers dropping off? Are people unsubscribing? Let them! If they aren’t staying on your list there may be lots of good reasons for that – the biggest one being – I’m sure you can answer this one for me – they aren’t your ideal clients. If they had any intention of being your client at any point then they would be staying on your list, so let them go, with love.

What about open rates – again they don’t mean much because some people have selected to have images turned off. What that means is that it’s possible that for your stats to count an email as opened, the images will have to have been loaded. Use the stats as a guide, but focus on engagement, new clients. How many people talk about your newsletter? Who replies?

I have people tell me that they love getting my newsletters, they save them but don’t always get around to reading them that week. I could get depressed about that, but I like to take the view that everything happens in its own sweet time and if they were meant to read what I’d written they’d have had the time to read it.

Another one that people get hung up on is website hits. Again, the numbers mean nothing if the visitor doesn’t end up becoming a subscriber or client. Instead of that, measure the number of people that sign up to receive your blog posts using your RSS feed, or the types of posts that are being shared. This kind of information is much more useful to you, it tells you where people are engaged.

I have over 8.5k followers over on Pinterest, which is great. Now most of my followers are interested in my creative boards, I have 1.5k on my coaching specific board, but how many of those have converted to paying clients? Well, I have actually had a few new clients from it, but definitely nothing along the lines of 8.5K, or even 1.5k!

Yes, it might be nice to have a few thousand Twitter followers, but you have to measure those things that really make a difference to your business

Focus on how many people are engaging in your content, what time of day do they engage, what do they share? All of those pieces of information are much more valuable to you.

If you focus too much on the numbers that don’t matter you can drive yourself nuts. Each time someone unsubscribes you start to wonder what you’re doing wrong. The answer is probably nothing, your list is simply streamlining itself perfectly for you, so that those that are on it love what you do.

Yes, all of these things are a way to boost your visibility but they can also impact on your mindset, which is one of the big areas we focus on in my Rock Your Visibility Bootcamp. You have to be kind to yourself.

So, while you are the fairest of them all, don’t let those stats be a reflection of you

They are just a measure, and actually, you want to be focusing on those things that make a difference.

Your call to action this week: Think about where you’re focusing purely on vanity stats and come up with a better way to measure how well you’re doing in your business

If you want to check out how visible you are being in your business grab your free copy of my Visibility Quiz.

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