Are You Procrastinating On Your Goal Because It’s Too Big?

In this blog post, I will share how by looking at your goal differently you can create fast results in your business.

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I want to tell you a story.

I’ve spent the past couple of years, talking about and writing a little bit of a book. I had the outline of a book and then after spending some time writing it I realised that I wanted to grow more in my business before finishing it. I know it sounds like a procrastination tactic, but genuinely I know this particular book will be better once I’ve personally achieved more things in my own business, I’ll have more to share then.

Enter the next book idea, which was going to be all about visibility. I knew I wanted to write it, I’d started writing it.

  • I bought the Scrivener app – check
  • I brainstormed loads of ideas from old content – check
  • I broke that down into lots of different sections – check

I was writing it.

Then reality hit – I knew we were moving twice in one year and that realistically it would be a bit too much with everything else going on in my life. I was procrastinating with it because I knew it wouldn’t get done this year and I got a bit despondent.

Until one day when I was chatting to my friend about it, saying that I’d love to do it but that it was a bit too much for this year. As we talked, I had an a-ha moment – what about if I just used what I already had and created a little book, instead of what I call a book-book (Totally inspired by the funny Ikea ad from a couple of years ago for that name!)

I shared with her how I’d hoped to have had a book to bring with me to my upcoming speaking gig, and that I just hadn’t been able to pull it off.

So my friend and I played around with ideas of how I could create the book on a smaller scale and have something simple to bring with me when I delivered my talk. I knew I had a LOT of content, so it was a matter of figuring out what I could pull together into a book.

I had been thinking about writing something around the visibility tips that I share on my social media platforms. They’ve always been really popular and lots of people have messaged me either asking for more of them, telling me off for not posting them enough, or thanking me for helping them take small actions on visibility in their businesses.

So, it wasn’t just a ‘let me pull something out of the hat’ moment but there was the consideration of the commercial element too. (Super important or I could have been throwing away income focusing on this instead of other projects I was working on)

So, Sophie Jewry, my said friend, happens to have a design and print business. She told me she’d design the format of the book for me and I would just need to provide the content.

My book, Little Book of Visibility Tips, went from concept to a physical book in my hands in just THREE weeks. It just goes to show what you can pull off.

What made this work?

  1. Talking about how you’re feeling in your business with your friends – If I’d have kept my disappointment to myself my little book would have stayed something that would happen ‘next year’
  2. Having the amazing friend in the first place – Yes you could pull this off with a new print and design company, but having someone in it with you made all the difference. Sophie wanted me to get my book out there as much as I did. This spurred me on to get it done already!
  3. Knowing WHY I wanted the book – I didn’t just want a book for the sake of it. I had a purpose. My goal was to have a book that I could use for speaking gigs, giveaways, client gifts, a product to sell and more. My immediate goal was to be able to bring a book with me to my next speaking gig to use as a giveaway from the stage and to sell at the event too
  4. Rearranging my other work – If I wanted to pull this off in 3 weeks to allow for design, print and delivery then there were other things that needed to be dropped. I knew that this would need to become a priority over other things
  5. Taking fast action & declaring it publicly – I took fast action, but to make me more focused I told people that the book was coming. I posted in my groups and on social media. Once the book was designed we shared some images to say it was coming and I got pre-orders.

Over To You

What big goals are you putting off, either as an excuse because of fear, or because of genuine issues that might be holding you back?

Suspending disbelief for a moment, what might happen if you committed to finding a different way to achieve that goal, by chunking it down into something smaller.

What’s next for me and my writing?

Well this year still is the busiest year but I’ve got another two little books on the list to create by the end of 2018. (See what I did there – I declared it publicly)

Now I know I can pull them together so fast, it would be mad not to create more. I wonder what other goals I could chunk down this year too!

Call to Action: Your call to action this week is to run through your goals list and decide if there are things that you could be doing, if you just broke them into micro projects instead of major ones.

Remember to check out my Visibility Quiz to find out whether you’re a Visibility Lady, Countess, Princess or Queen. If you’re a guy then please change the names to Lord, Count, Prince and King) Once you’ve got your score I’d love for you to come on over to my pinned post on my business page and tell me what score you got. There’s a chance to win a little prize each month.

Also, I would love to interview Ladies, Countesses, Princesses & Queens on my podcast show, Rock Your Fabulous Biz. I’ll be asking you all about what you do on visibility right now, what’s working for you, what’s not and where you’d like to be. If you’re interested then apply for your spot here – http://bit.ly/PodVisQuiz. In order for your application to be considered, you’ll need to have completed the quiz though as I’ll need to know what you’ve scored etc.

Have You Eaten Your Frog?

In this blog post, I will share 8 ways that you stop procrastinating and get things done in your biz

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Procrastinating can be fun. Until it’s not! It can dent your confidence, where you keep putting things off and not achieving what you want to achieve.

I do think there are positives to procrastination too though. What I mean by that is sometimes you’ll be procrastinating because you don’t have all of the information you need, or the timing isn’t right etc. This blog isn’t about that! This is about not doing the things you’re meant to be doing. I’m going to share a few ways to beat your procrastination.

This is a little list intentionally. If you’re a procrastinator giving you yet more to read or learn isn’t going to help you crack the habit of procrastinating!

  1. Clear Your Energy Drainers

There are things in life that we tolerate, we let them build up.  It might be a blown light bulb, a shredding bin that needs emptying, some paperwork etc.  Each time we see this pile or list of jobs to do it can drain our energy. It also has quite a powerful impact on how we feel about ourselves.  If we can’t achieve the simplest of things then why would we even bother trying the bigger stuff?

Write a list of the top things you are putting off and work through them one by one.  Your confidence will grow as you achieve them.

  1. Don’t Over-Think It (Less Time Thinking, More Time Doing)

This is pretty straightforward – don’t over-think it. I’ve just finished the book, ‘The 5 Second Rule’ by Mel Robbins. She has a fabulously simple little strategy of counting down from 5 to 1 and on 1 doing that thing you’re putting off. It helps you get loads done! (Read her book for more info)

We spend so much time thinking about tasks that need doing and yet put them off.  Less thinking, more doing = more time doing the things you love.

  1. Eat Your Frog

As Brian Tracy says in his book of the same name. Get the big jobs (that one you know you’re totally going to put off) out of the way – it makes the day way more fun.

  1. Most Important Tasks

Set yourself up for success.

Set your top Most Important Tasks for the Day or MIT’s (I first learned this from Leonie Dawson, I think it might be from Stephen Covey originally, I’m not sure)

  1. Use the Pomodoro Technique (Check Out This Link For More Info)

Set a timer for 25 minutes to see what you can achieve. Break down the task (Pomodoro) (set a 15/25-minute timer, put in 100% effort on that task.  When the timer goes off, put it away – just take one step at a time).

  1. Don’t Wait For Perfect (I know, this one is tough if you’re a perfectionist)

Sometimes you just need to take a risk and put it out there. Remember mistakes are ok. There will also be mistakes that you make but it’s how you learn from those mistakes and what you do differently next time that will make all the difference.

Often the fear of it not being perfect can result in procrastination.  There is debate about this but I know certainly for me I put off things because by not putting them out there means I can’t get it wrong.  I’m a work in progress.

Choose a ‘have a go’ attitude.

 

  1. Give Yourself Permission

You need to give yourself permission to make mistakes. If someone else made that mistake we would encourage them to pick themselves up, dust themselves off and try again – we ‘give them permission’. Not so easy when it’s you, I know.

  • Give yourself permission to be you
  • Give yourself permission to change your mind and go in a completely different direction
  • Give yourself permission to be happy

If you have learnt something from the mistake and want to keep going that’s great – but conversely if it’s really making you unhappy then it’s ok to give yourself permission to change your mind!

  1. Stop Taking Yourself So Seriously
  • Lighten up!
  • Take responsibility for your own life
  • How can you bring more fun into your life?

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Call To Action: I’ve shared lots of different ways to stop procrastinating. Now go and eat that frog!

Remember to check out my Visibility Quiz to find out whether you’re a Visibility Lady, Countess, Princess or Queen. If you’re a guy then please change the names to Lord, Count, Prince and King) Once you’ve got your score I’d love for you to come on over to my pinned post on my business page and tell me what score you got. There’s a chance to win a little prize each month.

Also, I would love to interview Ladies, Countesses, Princesses & Queens on my podcast show, Rock Your Fabulous Biz. I’ll be asking you all about what you do on visibility right now, what’s working for you, what’s not and where you’d like to be. If you’re interested then apply for your spot here – http://bit.ly/PodVisQuiz. In order for your application to be considered, you’ll need to have completed the quiz though as I’ll need to know what you’ve scored etc.

Your Negativity Could Be Costing You Clients

In this blog post, I will share how you can take control of your life through choices you make.

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Have you ever come across the phrase ‘cause and effect’ when it comes to being in control of your life? It’s an NLP language pattern and could be something that’s costing you lots of time, energy and maybe even dreamie clients.

What’s it all about?

If you’re at ‘EFFECT’ someone/something else is in control of your life

  • One thing causes another (the effect)
  • You blame others for not succeeding
  • You come from a disempowered place because you believe you are reliant on situations / circumstances / people to effect change

If you’re at ‘CAUSE’ you’re in control of your life

  • You create your life
  • You take responsibility for your life and what happens in it
  • You come from a powerful place because you believe you can effect change

I know which place I’d rather be in. The one where I get to create my world, where I’m in control and taking responsibility for my life and what happens in it. It isn’t wishful thinking, it doesn’t mean things won’t go wrong, they probably will, that’s life, but it’s your reaction to them that counts.

Let’s use Facebook for visibility as an example. We all know the algorithms have changed and it’s been more challenging to reach our audiences. (Personally I’m super grateful to Facebook, it’s helped me connect with some amazing business owners, dreamie clients, and more importantly incredible friends).

So, if you’re at effect, you might say, “The algorithms are ruining my business, I might as well give up and get a job”.  However, if you’re at cause, you might say, “So the algorithms have changed, what can I do differently to boost my engagement?”

It’s easier to blame others though, isn’t it? We can pass on all responsibility to someone else, it’s easier.

It’s alright for ‘so and so’, they’ve got money to throw around to build their business, they get all the lucky breaks, there are just too many people out there doing what you do, it’s no wonder your business isn’t working, right?

WRONG.

If that’s your thinking then it’s time to turn it around.

Nobody is to blame if your business isn’t working, and that includes you! Blame doesn’t serve anybody, it will help you wallow, not take action. You can take responsibility for being where you are right now, for the decisions that you’ve made bringing you to this place in your business journey. Nobody is at fault. Don’t give your power away. Take ownership of your business and life.

If you want to be successful you want to be at cause – in control. You’re an owner of your business, now you get to be the owner of your life too! How cool is that?!

When you’re at cause you aren’t a victim, you’re a powerful business owner, who can choose what action to take to build your business.

Just think for a moment, how making the decision to live at cause will impact your business.

So you didn’t sign up that new client. You can decide that it doesn’t matter if there’s lots of business owners out there doing what you do. You could spend time figuring out what makes you different, whether your services were the right fit for that client and how you can make the next call go better.

Your launch didn’t go so well. You can choose to focus on what did go well. Maybe following everyone else’s blueprint doesn’t work for you. Maybe it’s time to pull together a different way of launching, one that feels easy and flows.

You didn’t hit the numbers you wanted to hit in your business this month. You get to decide how you can do things differently next month. You don’t need to stay in victim mode, feeling like the world is against you, you can feel instantly empowered, ready to take action and with a fire in your belly for your business, all by making the decision that you get to choose how you run your business (and life!)

You didn’t get all of the work done that you set out to do. That’s okay too. You can sit down and work out what really needed to be done, and choose to figure out a smarter way of working going forward, one where you set clearer goals and measurable targets.

If you want your business to be successful, DECIDE today for it to be so and then go out there and make it happen! You’ve got what it takes, now go show us what you’ve got!

Call To Action: Figure out if you’re at cause or effect. Let me know what decision you make from listening to/reading this post and what action you’ll take as a result.

Remember to check out my Visibility Quiz to find out whether you’re a Visibility Lady, Countess, Princess or Queen. If you’re a guy then please change the names to Lord, Count, Prince and King) Once you’ve got your score I’d love for you to come on over to my pinned post on my business page and tell me what score you got. There’s a chance to win a little prize each month.

Also, I would love to interview Ladies, Countesses, Princesses & Queens on my podcast show, Rock Your Fabulous Biz. I’ll be asking you all about what you do on visibility right now, what’s working for you, what’s not and where you’d like to be. If you’re interested then apply for your spot here – http://bit.ly/PodVisQuiz. In order for your application to be considered, you’ll need to have completed the quiz though as I’ll need to know what you’ve scored etc.

Part 6 Rock Your Procrastination & Overwhelm

In today’s blog post, I will be sharing part six of a seven-part mini-training series to help you rock your visibility. Check out the other training in the series here if you missed them.

Part 1 of 7 Rock Your Mindset
Part 2 Rock Your Connection
Part 3 Rock Your Story

Part 4 Rock Your Relationship Building
Part 5 Rock Your Planning

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • How to be visible when you’re making every excuse under the sun not to be!
  • How knowing your personal signs of overwhelm can really help you
  • One word to kick overwhelm into touch forever
  • A super quick strategy for overcoming overwhelm when you’re in it
  • Dealing with the procrastination monster
  • A 3-step strategy for tackling procrastination
  • A fabulous procrastination busting tool

Here’s a link to my Fabulous Resource Centre: http://bit.ly/FabResCtr
You’ll also get access to lots of other biz resources too!

Join my free Facebook Group, Rock Your Fabulous Biz, to get free visibility hints, tips and trainings – Rock Your Fabulous Biz.

3 Valuable Lessons Learned From Procrastinating Like A Pro

In this blog post, I will share 3 lessons learned from procrastinating like a pro (for 18 months) and how it could have held back in my business.

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As you may know by now, my nickname is the Queen of Connection. This past week I think it should be changed to Queen of Procrastination!

Procrastinating. We all procrastinate from time to time but when it comes to being visible in your business it’s often fear that takes a grip. It feels super scary being visible and you have to constantly keep stepping up if you want people to know about your business. It doesn’t matter how far you’ve come in business or what you know, the procrastination monster (fear in this case), can kick in.

Here’s what happened:

Ever since I’ve become a coach I’ve had issues around whether I’m as good as other coaches. I’ve done the training, been tested, but it’s never been enough to completely quieten that nagging voice of doubt.

Yes, I’ve had the coaching on it, but often the coach gets frustrated with me, tells me just to get on with it and move on! At first, the fear was around being a newbie coach, but that never quite passed and the more I’ve mentored people the new fear of me not being a purist coach came up. (As in pure coaching only I mean, no mentoring)

Eighteen months ago I decided I wanted to go for my Accredited Senior Coach accreditation. I know I get great results with my clients but that’s because I combine my skills. For this assessment, I knew I needed to be a purist coach, and a lot of my work now is both coaching and mentoring so it’s hard for me to separate the two. I know I get better results with my clients when I use a combination of both.

If I could prove to myself that I was an okay coach then I could put a stop to this once and for all. So, like most things in my life, I treated it like a project. I spoke with my mentor and asked for some practice sessions with her.

As part of my sessions, we decided that I’d practice honing my skills on some business besties and get them to give me some honest feedback about areas in which I needed to improve. All good so far.

In my group programme, Rock Your Visibility Bootcamp, I thought I’d share my vulnerability with them to inspire them to step up with me. I declared that I would get the assessment done within the following 3 months and they were welcome to hold me accountable for a change. Three months came and went, no assessment or mention of it.

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Lesson 1: Declare your goal, it means it doesn’t go away because you know someone could come back to you on it!

I had 5 of 6 sessions with my mentor, I think it was, and then I stopped them. If I didn’t take that last session, I didn’t have to take the assessment so I couldn’t fail, right?!

That nagging reminder that I’d declared the intention in my group was still there, though, so I ended up booking my final session and we talked about the assessment again. My accountability piece was that I’d follow it up and just ask the coaching body to book an assessment date for me, which I did.

I knew that I needed to just do it. No more messing about. If I didn’t take it then I wouldn’t know what I needed to improve on. I knew I couldn’t keep saying I’m going to do it, that’s not what I do. I’m an action taker, true to my word, so I did.

The session happened to come up when I took some time out over the past couple of weeks, funny that. The universe must have known I needed no other distractions! Thankfully, because I was not working I had time to prepare. There’s a lot of supporting evidence to provide for the assessment, plus I needed to feel ready. Yeah, like that was ever going to be happen

Lesson 2: Sometimes you just need to jump, there is no ‘ready’

You name it, I ran it as a thought. I messaged my mentor on the day asking the most basic questions, because I was so nervous. Why? Well what if they thought I couldn’t coach?’, ‘What if they listened back to the recording and wondered who on earth this coach was to say she was even applying to become an accredited senior coach?’ I didn’t even dare share it with my group in case I failed!

So to ‘get through it’ I did EFT. I did an NLP anxiety technique. I took White Chestnut Bach Flower Remedy to stop churning over what might be. I wrote a gratitude journal, I wrote intentions, I visualised. I did afformations (not a spelling mistake – they are different to affirmations!) I listened to past mentoring calls where I coached my ‘client’ and listened to her feedback to improve. Throw every tool you can at it. Whatever it takes to get you through that fear – do it!

I tried to be a shining example of a mum to Natasha, showing her that I wasn’t nervous (She’d just finished 10 GCSE’s for goodness sake – I was only doing 1 assessment) but it was a BIG deal! I was nervous, I was pacing, drinking coffee like it had gone out of fashion, but I knew it had to be done.

It only took me 18 months to pluck up the courage to go for it – how’s that for procrastination?!! EIGHTEEN months! Seriously!

The outcome: Ta-da! I passed!

4After I was told I’d passed the assessment, I didn’t celebrate. I didn’t really even believe it until the award came through by email. I thought I’d misheard it. I even clarified with the assessor on the call that I had actually passed! I was like a cat on hot bricks waiting for the details to come through.

The thing is, if I hadn’t made myself vulnerable and declared to my lovely Bootcamp members that I was going to do it, it wouldn’t have happened. I’d have failed them, as I wasn’t leading by example, but this was yet another comfort zone I didn’t want to cross. ‘What if I failed at this assessment?’, ‘

What’s SO sad, though, and I’m sure some of you will resonate is that I got my actual grade last week and my first reaction wasn’t excitement, it was disappointment. I don’t know what I expected but the number wasn’t good enough. I wanted the number to be higher than it was.

I discounted all of the good and focused on a stupid number that means nothing. I was told prior to the assessment that to pass the testing would be rigorous, they wanted loads of evidence and I would only be awarded it if I could satisfy their strict criteria.

And I did. I passed, but what do I focus on – a stupid freaking number! A number that by any standards is a great number. It wasn’t just a scrape through, but it wasn’t the number I wanted. I think if I’d have got 99% it still wouldn’t have been good enough.

Did it really matter either way if I didn’t get the accreditation? Well yes and no. Truthfully, I think I’ve only been asked about my qualifications a couplesocial-media of times now since coaching. It wouldn’t mean I couldn’t coach, I’d still get great results with my clients, but it was something that was important to me personally – something I just had to do.

My fear mindset could have cost me clients, though, I know that if you’re having doubts about your abilities when you’re coaching, you’re not completely focused on your client, and that’s not right.

When I was asked by my coach in a group coaching programme I’m in, how I was going to celebrate, I said I didn’t know. I’m not great at celebrating, but I will celebrate this one. It was a long time coming!

Lesson 3: Remember to celebrate

I hope by me sharing another vulnerable post with you that you’ll stop procrastinating on that thing that scares you too, it’s much more fun being on the other side of fear!

Call to action this week: Sometimes you just know it has to be done, no matter what the fear is. You will never develop if you don’t push yourself. You never know how far you’ll get if you just share with others what scares you, and then go out there and do it anyway.

Anyway, still doing the happy dance. I did pass after all!

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