Rock Your Visibility Interview With Alexandra Franzen

I’ve been following Alexandra Franzen’s work for a while now. She is such a beautiful wordsmith, and creates amazing content. Lots of lovely links to check out below.

In this juicy episode, we talk about:

  1. What to do if you don’t feel good enough
  2. What to do if you don’t want to blog
  3. How your body image can affect your visibility
  4. Overcoming perfectionism
  5. How Twitter could be costing you 3.4 years of your life!

Want to connect with Alexandra? Here’s her links:

http://www.alexandrafranzen.com/
http://www.alexandrafranzen.com/shop/ (where you can find out all about her fab book, “You’re Going To Survive”
http://www.alexandrafranzen.com/2014/08/08/35-things-you-can-do-instead-of-starting-a-blog/

Remember to check out my Visibility Quiz to find out whether you’re a Visibility Lady, Countess, Princess or Queen. If you’re a guy then please change the names to Lord, Count, Prince and King) Once you’ve got your score I’d love for you to come on over to my pinned post on my business page and tell me what score you got. There’s a chance to win a little prize each month.

Also, I would love to interview Ladies, Countesses, Princesses & Queens on my podcast show, Rock Your Fabulous Biz. I’ll be asking you all about what you do on visibility right now, what’s working for you, what’s not and where you’d like to be. If you’re interested then apply for your spot here – http://bit.ly/PodVisQuiz. In order for your application to be considered, you’ll need to have completed the quiz though as I’ll need to know what you’ve scored etc.

Are You Trying To Be Mary Poppins In Your Biz?

In this blog post, I will share why you don’t need to be a perfect business owner to be successful.

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You don’t need to be Mary Poppins, or practically perfect, and you probably don’t even have the time! You need to go with 80% perfect and that needs to be good enough, or you’ll never make any money in your business!

In what way are you a perfectionist? Perfectionism is all about having super high standards, the dictionary definition when I Googled it says this – “Refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.” Wow, so much pressure! If this is you, then it’s time to change. Life gets SO much more fun when you just loosen up a bit (I know!)

What’s going on?

Fear of judgement – Ironic really when the biggest person that’s judging you is you!

Fear of failure – you WILL make mistakes, fact! Make them, learn from them. It’s feedback, not failure.

Fear of ‘it’ not being good enough – Check the impact, ‘How much will this really matter in three months, six months, one year’s time?’

Imposter Syndrome – Where you think you’re going to be found out. You are – you’re going to be found out to be the fabulous person that you are.

I bet if you think about your family and best friends, you could share one thing that’s not perfect about them. If you can’t, then they’re probably perfectionists and hiding their weaknesses really well! We all have them.

A story about perfectionism

What expectations are you putting on yourself?

Let me share one of my personal experiences, which may help you realise that if you do have perfectionist traits you’re not on your own!

I went for my IIC & M (International Institute of Coaching & Mentoring) Accredited Senior Coach assessment. I was really nervous about it and procrastinated over it for about a year and a half. I finally did the assessment and I was stressed out all day waiting for the call to just be over and done with.

The main reason for my fear was that I’m not what you call a ‘purist’ coach, I don’t just coach, I bring in mentoring too, and for this assessment I had to stick to pure coaching.  I knew I’d passed as I was told on the call, and I got some great feedback.

I then just had to wait for the certificate and the actual grade to come through. When it did, I was really disappointed. The pass mark was 75%, I got 86%. I didn’t think I’d done that well. I completely discounted that I’d passed and was now an Accredited Senior Coach, all because of a silly number. My brain still says I should have got a higher grade but I have to remind my mindset monkey that it’s okay not to be perfect!

Are you perfect? No?? Why not??!!

I wrote about perfectionism in the chapters of a book I co-authored. Here’s an extract…

“Now you might not want to hear this. Perfectionism is also hiding a lack of confidence and the need to be liked.

Think about it for a moment…

  •      You don’t want to send out that letter with a typo on. Why? You don’t want people to think you’re unprofessional.
  •      You don’t want to put a post on social media that’s less than perfect. Why? Because you’re worried about what people think.
  •      You don’t start a new action/activity. Why? Because you think someone will do it better than you can.

We want people to like us, there is a need for approval and we think if we show any flaws then people won’t like us. Well, you know what you are NEVER going to get everyone to like you. NEVER. Some people will totally love and get you. Others might think you’re crazy or you might drive them crazy.

The tip to working through your perfectionism is you need to learn to let go.

For those of you that are perfectionists, I know, how on earth do you do that, it’s impossible, right?! Well, it can be done but it’s uncomfortable for a while.

Why is it so hard to do a less than perfect job, but so comfortable to attempt a better job?

Perfectionism doesn’t just affect your life, it may be really stifling your business/work too. I like things to be perfect, but I’m slowly learning that 80% can be good enough. My online coaching programmes might never have launched if I hadn’t chosen just to release them into the world and tweak as I go. People are taking steps in their businesses because I put myself out there; fear and faults, or not.

So what’s wrong with wanting to do a really good job or creating something perfect? Nothing. It’s when the judgement, analysis and criticism kick in that it becomes a problem. It’s when it stops us in our tracks, preventing us from moving forward that we need to recognise it’s holding us back.

Don’t let perfectionism ruin your life and/or work. Take some steps to deal with it.”

Become a work in progress like me!

Perfectionism is self-sabotaging behaviour and doesn’t serve you. It stops you from sharing your amazing gifts with the world. It’s time to let it go and be imperfectly perfect.

Call To Action: This week I want you to take some imperfect action

Let’s say;

  •      You have drafted some wording for a post, then use it – post it
  •      You might have a blog post sitting on your desktop, finish and publish it
  •      You might be waiting to get the right video equipment or the perfect background for your Facebook Live – just do it already. It doesn’t need to be perfect. Check out mine, I umm, ahhh, waffle and forget what I want to say. It’s all okay, don’t let perfectionism hold you back
  •      You might not be talking to people about what you do because your elevator pitch isn’t perfect – just share your message
  •      You might not be doing business because you don’t have a website. It’s all nonsense! One of my past mentors has been in business for 20 years and still doesn’t have a website. She gets clients. Do NOT let this kind of thing hold you back

You KNOW what it is you’re putting off. Just do it.

No more excuses. THIS WEEK!

Remember to check out my Visibility Quiz to find out whether you’re a Visibility Lady, Countess, Princess or Queen. If you’re a guy then please change the names to Lord, Count, Prince and King) Once you’ve got your score I’d love for you to come on over to my pinned post on my business page and tell me what score you got. There’s a chance to win a little prize each month.

Also, I would love to interview Ladies, Countesses, Princesses & Queens on my podcast show, Rock Your Fabulous Biz. I’ll be asking you all about what you do on visibility right now, what’s working for you, what’s not and where you’d like to be. If you’re interested then apply for your spot here – http://bit.ly/PodVisQuiz. In order for your application to be considered, you’ll need to have completed the quiz though as I’ll need to know what you’ve scored etc.

Bye Bye Perfectionism – Hello Perfectly Imperfect

In this blog post, I’m going to be talking about how being perfectly imperfect in your business is actually OK.

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I’m a recovering perfectionist. Hmmm, not even sure I can get away with that one because there are certain things that I just can’t deal with. Dare I share?!

I HATE it when people put jars back in the cupboard with the labels the wrong way round.

It drives me crazy if I make a mistake on a piece of paper I’m writing on. I want to rip it out and start all over again. In the past I would have, now I have much more respect for the environment and my time too!

I hate unmatching china – I like my dinner service to match and my poor family gets plates whipped off them if they dare to do unmatching!

Being a perfectionist in business can be very interesting. It’s one of those things you gotta work on honey, if you want to get anywhere! I have had to work very hard at it, and still do.

Let me share a story around a webinar I was running. I’d decided to test out a recording of a webinar that would stay up on my page for 24 hours. I like to try out different things in my business and test the results. I set myself aside a week to get it done. The week I chose wasn’t the best one as I was back to back with clients, but that’s how I roll anyway so it was all good.

1Well, it was all good until I hit 1.30 on Wednesday afternoon realizing that my webinar was to go out at 12.01am Thursday, the very next day. I hadn’t written a word, never mind recorded, set up a landing page, set up my email messages. I honestly thought it was Tuesday. I’d scheduled out some time in my diary on the Wednesday to sort it all out. I had a plan. Ok so in most people’s worlds it’s not a great plan as people aren’t quite as last minute as me, but in Ruby’s world, there was still loads of time. As I’ve shared in the past, my creative muse always shows up last minute. Thanks for that, by the way, creative muse! (She needs a name – tag me on Facebook with some ideas – I love things having names)

Ok so in most people’s worlds it’s not a great plan as people aren’t quite as last minute as me, but in Ruby’s world, there was still loads of time. As I’ve shared in the past, my creative muse always shows up last minute. Thanks for that, by the way, creative muse! (She needs a name – tag me on Facebook with some ideas – I love things having names)

So, I dropped everything (no, don’t worry, not any clients – I’d finished by that point – luckily) and I started writing the webinar. I had a chat later on in the day with one of my business besties and she said there was no issue with me sending out an email, telling people what had happened. Everyone likes people being human, she said. She was right, they do BUT it didn’t sit right with me. How could I talk about being visible and then not show up? See my conundrum there. You’ve got to laugh really because for all of my introversion I chose to rebrand in an area that

How could I talk about being visible and then not show up? See my conundrum there. You’ve got to laugh really because for all of my introversion I chose to rebrand in an area that defies introversion by making me have to show up. It’s ok for all of you, you get to choose! I don’t, tee hee!

Anyway, I decided that I wasn’t going to do that. I was going to just get it done already. I knew about my topic, it wasn’t as if I had to come up with anything new in terms of content. I was just sharing what I thought people needed to hear.

The trouble was, my little fear monster was rearing its ugly head and doing that whole, yeah but what if…

‘What if you can’t pull it off in time?’, ‘What if the content isn’t good enough?’ ‘What if, what if, what if’. Well, you know what, it might not be perfect, but I’d committed to it and it WOULD be going out, imperfect or not.

So I shared a bit of this in a couple of my groups, I guess because I’d realised how far I’d come.

Because a year or so ago, you see, I’d have faffed and stressed and worried, and procrastinated, and got really super stuck BUT because I’ve worked so much on my mindset I now know that what I share will be perfect and what people need to hear, even if it’s imperfect.

I choose to know that I am exactly where I need to be right now and I have a message to share.

If I miss out an image or it’s too long or too short because I haven’t had time to refine it, then so be it. It’s better out there and imperfect than not being authentic and letting people down.7

So, if your imperfection is related to household stuff, like my tins and china, then good luck with that.

Your call to action this week: If you’ve got a piece of work that needs sharing, however, but you’re afraid of putting it out there for whatever reason, then I encourage you to kick your perfectionism into touch and share anyway

What’s the worst that could happen? You’ll make a mistake? So what? Mistakes. Are. Ok. You’re human. Don’t hide away what’s meant to be shared.

So you might ask, how did it turn out. It was imperfectly perfect in every single way! Yay, go me!

Go you too!

Do not let perfectionism stop you from sharing your message in the world. As my friend had rightly said, people love human.

It’s time to be human, be perfectly imperfect and to rock your visibility.

We’ve got this!

 

 

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