Do You Really Want What You’re Chasing?

Have you ever set a goal that you reach only to find it isn’t really what you thought it would be?

Click here to listen on iTunes or this for Stitcher

This can happen so often in business.

One big thing that comes up with a lot of my clients is where they think they want a particular type of business and then wish they’d done something completely different.

It can be easy to fall into the trap of doing a business to ‘chase the money’, but if that chasing the money doesn’t bring happiness, you may as well go and get a ‘proper job’. Today we’re going to do some funky goal setting. Let’s make those goals exciting and enticing.

Whenever I chat with clients/potential clients I take them through 5 steps to getting clarity around their business model. I start by asking them to really connect with what they are passionate about. We then explore if their passion matches their skill set and then we’ve got a better foundation to work from.

So often people start building programmes for who they think they ‘should’ work with, instead of doing the ground work to ensure they have the passion in the first place and are really clear on who their dreamie clients are and what they’re struggling with.

It’s time to do a bit of FUNKY goal setting.

F is for FABULOUS

Your goal needs to totally excite you and I mean really have you feeling exhilarated inside. You’re not going for mediocre here, you’re going all out and aiming as high as you can, stretching up on your tiptoes to see how amazing your future can be, once you can just squeeze outside of your comfort zone. If it’s not feeling fabulous, why? What can you do to tweak it so that it thrills the life out of you? Who do you look at and think, ‘I wish my life was like that’? Use those feelings to guide you in your decision to set goals. Sometimes jealousy can be a good indicator of what you really want. If you’re jealous of someone else, it can show you what you really desire.

What will it mean to you to achieve this goal? How will life/you be different when you reach it?

That little nagging voice saying to you, ‘Yeah, well this is all well and good but you didn’t make it last time’, or ‘How do you know it will work?,’ or ‘It’s too big a goal for you, you don’t deserve it.’ Kick those naughty mindset monkeys into touch. That’s your fear talking and the sooner you work through it the quicker you will realise your goals.

U is for UNSHAKEABLE

• Be REALLY clear about what your goal is, use all of your senses to figure it out. What will it look like, feel like, smell like, taste like?
• Your goal needs to be exactly that… YOUR goal, not someone else’s goal for you
• Thinking about your role model what it is that they do consistently that gets them that life that you desire?
• Plan out the steps you need to put into place to make sure this absolutely happens
• Write down what/who would get in your way of achieving your goal
• Be real here, if you want to be an international swimmer and you’re scared of water it may take a bit longer to get there, but it doesn’t mean you can’t – it’s all about small changes
• Build in contingency plans – life doesn’t always go according to plan, we might be too tired/busy/poorly so build in that extra time to cover it so that you still remain on course
• Assume it’s yours, you’ve achieved it! Trick your mind into thinking it’s already yours and you will be amazed at how things change

N is for NOW

ACTIONS speak louder than words

• There’s no point just writing down your goals (did I say that written goals are much more effective) and taking no action. You have to DO something about them
• Yes there may be challenges along the way, but these can provide you with valuable feedback and opportunities to grow
• Stop putting it off. It may feel scary but when you’re looking back at your life when you’re 80 which was worse, fear or regret?
• An overused (but still good) quote is that a dream without a deadline is just an idea, so once you’ve set your goal, made it unshakeable, work on when you are going to get it done by and set some mini steps to get there.
• Go out there and make it happen… Start NOW

K is for KEEP – KEEP AT IT

• Every single day I want you to take one small step towards your goal, even if only 10-15 minutes
• Commit now, ‘I will spend 10-15 minutes every day working towards… / growing my business’ etc
• Sometimes the hardest part is just starting – by doing a small amount each day it gets easier because your confidence grows and your momentum kicks in
• Often once you start you find yourself doing more and more because you enjoy it
• Build in accountability – who will ensure you stay focused / check in with you to see how you’re doing / help you work out what’s next?
• Create a network of support around you so that on those days you want to give up someone will be there cheering you on to keep going (friends are great, but it’s actually better if it’s a business buddy / colleague / coach or action group)

So keep at it, every single day and you will start to see results!

This is the YES of commitment.

You’ve set your goal, it’s FABULOUS, it’s unshakeable, you’re going to take action NOW, you plan to keep the momentum going and it’s time to 100% commit and say YES ! I CAN and WILL do this.

If you want things to stay the same then do nothing. If you want things to change commit now, to yourself (in writing if it helps). You can set as many amazing goals as you like, but if you don’t commit to following through on them they are just meaningless lists.

Commit to your goals and set your intentions and then watch the magic happen.

Is it FABULOUS?
Is it UNSHAKEABLE?
What can you start NOW?
How will you KEEP the momentum going?
Say YES, commit to your goal 100%

With all of this in mind, check in with yourself. Is this really a goal you want to be chasing? If not, then that’s what you’ve got to change first.

Join my free FB community to connect with me and other fabulous solopreneurs to help you Rock Your Fabulous Biz.

The One Powerful Word That Can Help You Achieve Your Goals

In today’s post, I’m talking about the one powerful word that can help you achieve your goals. I’m sharing how I set a word for the year each year, and what it has helped me bring about. I’m talking about the thinking behind it and how you can set your own word for the year.

BP Memes (1)

Read Full Transcript below...

The one powerful word that can help you achieve your goals

For the last 3-4 years, I’ve set myself a word of the year. 3 out of 4 of those years the word was fabulous. I think it’s a great word and it sums up how I want every area of my life to be. Last year I thought it would be better to create one simple word for my goals, a word that would encapsulate every part of my life.

Last year’s word was simplicity. Let me explain what that word meant for me – I am a great believer in KISS’ing. Keeping It Simple Sweetie. I’ve always wanted to be one of those people that didn’t overcomplicate things, but I found myself naturally gravitating to adding yet more and more to my plate in both life and business over time.

For me, simplicity in my business was about setting up systems and automation to make my business run more smoothly. It was about getting clearer on what I was offering and to who, making sure everything worked well together, and also in isolation. It was about working on just ONE THING (If you like this idea then you have to read the book One Thing by Gary Keller – it really changed how I do things). When you only focus on one thing you not only get things done, you also avoid all of that overwhelm because it’s just one thing to do and then you can move onto the next things.

  • To simplify, I got really clear on my working days/times and set very clear boundaries. I take Fridays off now and only work weekends if I choose to
  • I reduced the amount of time on social media (that one is still a challenge – I might not be online at the weekends, other than a quick check in, but I’m definitely twitching at the thought of being unplugged for more than a few minutes!)
  • I started using MIT’s each day – where I simply focus on my top most important tasks
  • I signed up for Sanebox* – a way to organise your emails (Oh wow! That seriously works!)

And In life…

  • I reflect each day on what’s worked, what’s not and adapt accordingly (I use my Grid Diary journal
  • I make time to play and the key word there really is ‘make’ as it doesn’t come naturally to me. I LOVE what I do and find it hard to switch off but I realised that I needed to feed my creative side and play. I thought it would affect my business, and it has – it’s made it better as I no longer crash and burn
  • I simplified my self-care routines – I now have a list of things I can do, and I choose from them. Before when I was in the self-care zone it almost turned into a military operation – where’s the fun in that?!
  • By simplifying I now have more time with my family, more time to read, more time to create and things flow.

If I hadn’t spent time coming up with that word a lot of that might not have happened.

As with simplicity, we can often overcomplicate our goals. Sometimes we can feel too restrained by the goals we set in place, and if we don’t get the results we long for our goals can eventually fall by the wayside.

Setting a one word for the year goal can be really empowering

It helps you to keep focused. You can decide if something aligns with that one word, or if it doesn’t, and then make decisions based on that information.

For 2016, my one powerful word is going to be CONNECTION. It took a while for me to figure out what I wanted it to be. I knew I wanted to bring in more fun but I also wanted it to be all encompassing like my year for 2015.

So what does connection mean for me;

  • Firstly, it’s one of my top values. I love connecting with people (always a good thing if you can connect it to your values)
  • I want to connect more with my family (so evenings are now going to be the exception, rather than the norm when it comes to client work)
  • I want to connect with my friends. I’m often so busy I don’t have time to squeeze in fun, lazy lunches or meet ups. That’s going to be changing this year
  • I want to connect people with each other – I love introducing people to each other. I do this already, but want to do more of it
  • I want to connect with an audience, as a public speaker, so this means I need to do some work on my public speaking. I’m used to speaking in front of smaller audiences but I want to aim higher now
  • I want to connect with my creative side more, with my crafts. I’ve done a bit more card-making and handicrafts, but want to build on that more as it’s a really great way for me to get out of my head and live in the present
  • I want to connect more with nature, more outdoor walks in different places

The list goes on. Can you see how one word can actually inspire you to do so many things without necessarily having to sit down and work through a million and one pieces of paper to get there? Don’t get me wrong, I’m a coach, I love goal setting and planning, but sometimes we can just KISS. Setting our intentions with one all-encompassing word can be all you need.

If you like this idea then check out the website, One Word 365.com (oneword365.com/)

So how do you do it? The way I do it is this…

Ask yourself these questions;

  • What do you want more of in your life?
  • Who’s important to you?
  • What’s important to you?
  • How would you like to feel each day? (remember to link to your values if you can)

Make one word your focus this year and see where it takes you!

As they say on One Word 365.com – One word. 365 days. A changed life.

Grab your copy of my free Visibility Quiz – work out where you could be more visible in your business – http://www.bit.ly/VisQuiz

Join my free FB community to connect with me and other fabulous solopreneurs to help you Rock Your Fabulous Biz – http://bit.ly/RockYrFabBiz 

* Please note – Sanebox is an affiliate link. I only share links to companies that I have personally used/use and think are totally worth sharing.

Password Reset
Please enter your e-mail address. You will receive a new password via e-mail.