Do You Really Want What You’re Chasing?

Have you ever set a goal that you reach only to find it isn’t really what you thought it would be?

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This can happen so often in business.

One big thing that comes up with a lot of my clients is where they think they want a particular type of business and then wish they’d done something completely different.

It can be easy to fall into the trap of doing a business to ‘chase the money’, but if that chasing the money doesn’t bring happiness, you may as well go and get a ‘proper job’. Today we’re going to do some funky goal setting. Let’s make those goals exciting and enticing.

Whenever I chat with clients/potential clients I take them through 5 steps to getting clarity around their business model. I start by asking them to really connect with what they are passionate about. We then explore if their passion matches their skill set and then we’ve got a better foundation to work from.

So often people start building programmes for who they think they ‘should’ work with, instead of doing the ground work to ensure they have the passion in the first place and are really clear on who their dreamie clients are and what they’re struggling with.

It’s time to do a bit of FUNKY goal setting.

F is for FABULOUS

Your goal needs to totally excite you and I mean really have you feeling exhilarated inside. You’re not going for mediocre here, you’re going all out and aiming as high as you can, stretching up on your tiptoes to see how amazing your future can be, once you can just squeeze outside of your comfort zone. If it’s not feeling fabulous, why? What can you do to tweak it so that it thrills the life out of you? Who do you look at and think, ‘I wish my life was like that’? Use those feelings to guide you in your decision to set goals. Sometimes jealousy can be a good indicator of what you really want. If you’re jealous of someone else, it can show you what you really desire.

What will it mean to you to achieve this goal? How will life/you be different when you reach it?

That little nagging voice saying to you, ‘Yeah, well this is all well and good but you didn’t make it last time’, or ‘How do you know it will work?,’ or ‘It’s too big a goal for you, you don’t deserve it.’ Kick those naughty mindset monkeys into touch. That’s your fear talking and the sooner you work through it the quicker you will realise your goals.

U is for UNSHAKEABLE

• Be REALLY clear about what your goal is, use all of your senses to figure it out. What will it look like, feel like, smell like, taste like?
• Your goal needs to be exactly that… YOUR goal, not someone else’s goal for you
• Thinking about your role model what it is that they do consistently that gets them that life that you desire?
• Plan out the steps you need to put into place to make sure this absolutely happens
• Write down what/who would get in your way of achieving your goal
• Be real here, if you want to be an international swimmer and you’re scared of water it may take a bit longer to get there, but it doesn’t mean you can’t – it’s all about small changes
• Build in contingency plans – life doesn’t always go according to plan, we might be too tired/busy/poorly so build in that extra time to cover it so that you still remain on course
• Assume it’s yours, you’ve achieved it! Trick your mind into thinking it’s already yours and you will be amazed at how things change

N is for NOW

ACTIONS speak louder than words

• There’s no point just writing down your goals (did I say that written goals are much more effective) and taking no action. You have to DO something about them
• Yes there may be challenges along the way, but these can provide you with valuable feedback and opportunities to grow
• Stop putting it off. It may feel scary but when you’re looking back at your life when you’re 80 which was worse, fear or regret?
• An overused (but still good) quote is that a dream without a deadline is just an idea, so once you’ve set your goal, made it unshakeable, work on when you are going to get it done by and set some mini steps to get there.
• Go out there and make it happen… Start NOW

K is for KEEP – KEEP AT IT

• Every single day I want you to take one small step towards your goal, even if only 10-15 minutes
• Commit now, ‘I will spend 10-15 minutes every day working towards… / growing my business’ etc
• Sometimes the hardest part is just starting – by doing a small amount each day it gets easier because your confidence grows and your momentum kicks in
• Often once you start you find yourself doing more and more because you enjoy it
• Build in accountability – who will ensure you stay focused / check in with you to see how you’re doing / help you work out what’s next?
• Create a network of support around you so that on those days you want to give up someone will be there cheering you on to keep going (friends are great, but it’s actually better if it’s a business buddy / colleague / coach or action group)

So keep at it, every single day and you will start to see results!

This is the YES of commitment.

You’ve set your goal, it’s FABULOUS, it’s unshakeable, you’re going to take action NOW, you plan to keep the momentum going and it’s time to 100% commit and say YES ! I CAN and WILL do this.

If you want things to stay the same then do nothing. If you want things to change commit now, to yourself (in writing if it helps). You can set as many amazing goals as you like, but if you don’t commit to following through on them they are just meaningless lists.

Commit to your goals and set your intentions and then watch the magic happen.

Is it FABULOUS?
Is it UNSHAKEABLE?
What can you start NOW?
How will you KEEP the momentum going?
Say YES, commit to your goal 100%

With all of this in mind, check in with yourself. Is this really a goal you want to be chasing? If not, then that’s what you’ve got to change first.

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Are You Ready To Take The Lead, As Queen, Of Your Biz?

The idea of being a leader, aka Queen of your business, might terrify you!

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I believe that when you read a message, you’re reading it at the perfect time, so on that basis, I believe that if you’re receiving this message right now, it’s your time to step up as a leader, a Queen of your business, whether you feel ready or not.

It’s likely that you already have a tribe/community/following of people that look up to you, and enjoy what you do. They are waiting for you to really lead them.

You have everything you need to be a Queen right now. It’s just a simple decision. It doesn’t mean there won’t be hard work and future challenges involved, but the decision itself to lead is an easy one.

If you’re ready to step up as a Queen, then decide today to do that, and then explore how.

You may not feel you have the knowledge/experience yet to lead your Queendom. Queens of Business develop their knowledge and skills, so that they can stand in front of their people as strong leaders.

Start by sharing your stories, your vulnerabilities, your strengths. You’re doing what you do because it’s part of your life purpose. Don’t worry about being the expert right now, lead anyway. A bit like preparing for having kids, you’ll never be ready!

Instead of using your mind to worry about how you’re not ready, use it to develop the skills you need to become the best Queen you can be.

Show your people that you can be trusted to lead them.

Be honest about the skills you need to develop.

I read a book a while back (sorry, I can’t remember which one it was!) It said that if you “read for one hour a day on your topic area, within a year you’ll know more than 90% than others. Google it, research it, find out who leaders, movers and shakers are, read what they say and study RSS feeds.”

What that tells you is that leadership is something you can learn. You can model others’ behaviour, learn all about your topic, and become a master at what you do.

You have the potential to become a great Queen, regardless of where you’re at right now. It’s just a skill you can develop. As you step into the role of Queen more and more each day, you’ll slowly become the Queen you want to be.

This isn’t about being dishonest, it’s about stepping up and building your Queen skills along the way.

One of my clients was talking about being a little girl and wanting to wear her princess dress, and that despite it feeling too big, she still wore it anyway.

This is like stepping up as a Queen in your business. The dress might not feel like it fits … YET, but over time you’ll evolve, grow and develop your skills, and you’ll realise how far you’ve come. The dress (and crown) will fit!

You have so much to offer in your business. Now is the time to step up. Use your amazing resources to teach, motivate and inspire your dreamie clients and build your beautiful Queendom.

If you’re not sure where to start, book a Queen call with me and let me help you pull together a fabulous battle plan so that you know exactly what you need to do. There is so much you can create and attract into your business, you may just need another Queen like me to help you pull together a solid plan to make it happen.

As the lovely Adrienne Dorison recently said in one of her newsletters, it’s not all about just bringing in sales into your business, there are other things you need to do.

I believe that sales, of course, are incredibly important, but you also need to know how to lead your community as you bring them in. That way you get to win and keep your dreamie clients.

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