Be The Queen With Knees Knocking, And Still Take Action! (Fear Is Okay!)

In this blog post, I will share to be the Queen with knees knocking, and still take action.

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So you’ve decided to step up as a Queen. Hooray!

Now comes the tough bit!

Are your knees knocking underneath that beautiful Queen’s dress you’re wearing?! I get it, I feel like that too, a lot of the time actually.

BUT, you cannot let fear hold you back.

When you’re a Queen you will naturally have obstacles to overcome, it’s kind of one of the things that comes as part of the whole package of being a business owner.

If you want to grow your Queendom though, you’ve got to figure out how to overcome those obstacles, fear or not.

You’re a Queen – you don’t let obstacles get in your way. You know you have the power to work through your challenges, and any fears that might be holding you back.

There is always more than one way to achieve the success you desire as a Queen. I can bet there have been many, many obstacles you’ve overcome over the years. You can draw on that strength to overcome challenges you’re facing right now and in the future.

You can shatter any limiting beliefs with your sceptre, and get that crown of yours shining again in no time!

Yes, you may have to get help to get creative to come up with a plan, but it’s all possible. I believe that when things are meant to be then everything will feel like it’s in alignment. If you’re hitting obstacle after obstacle, then it might be time to reflect on whether you need a different battle plan.

Sometimes those challenges and detours can be the best thing ever in your business, as they help you to think creatively.

Being a Queen means learning from repeated ‘failures’, disappointments and lessons, but often that’s when the magic happens! You reflect, learn and find other fabulous ways to grow your business.

Very often, the biggest fear in your business is the one around bringing in money. You worry that you don’t have the sales skills to help convert clients, you worry that you won’t be able to pay your bills, you worry that you don’t have the services people want to pay for, the list goes on.

One of the skills that really helped me work through my money blocks, and still does, is EDT, Emotional Dowsing Technique. It doesn’t matter what level of business you’re at, we all have more money blocks that can come up from time to time that need clearing. With money blocks, often fear is attached.

I recently ran some EDT Money Block sessions, and it was amazing what came up for clients. Blocks that were hidden that they didn’t even know they had. Once they were cleared, the clients and money started to flow.

Sometimes I know it can feel like you’re pushing water uphill, and nobody is listening to you. Keep singing your song, keep telling people about what you do, keep pushing through that fear. The consistency pays off. And remember to always bring a bit of fun into your biz, it’s the best way to save your sanity!

Here’s three simple strategies to help you work through your fear:

  1. Write down what you’re feeling fearful about

    Let’s work through some of the stories you might be telling yourself about your biz right now. Here’s a few common statements my clients share with me:

    • “I have to work really hard to be successful.”
    • “It’s challenging getting new clients.”
    • “I find technology really frustrating.”
    • “Sales conversations are awkward.”
    • “I never have enough time to do what I want, or need to do.”
    • “I take two steps forward and one back.”
    On their own, these statements don’t seem that powerful, but when you attach them to a story that’s fearful, which might lead to things like:

    • “I won’t be able to pay my mortgage.”
    • “I won’t have time to spend with my family.”
    • “People will judge me”,
    you can see how it can make you feel fearful.

    Just saying these statements out loud can remove some of the power the fear has over you, and you can then start to explore ways of moving through it.

  2. Challenge Your Fear With Some Questions

    Taking this a step further, ask yourself a few questions around what you’ve put down. Challenge your thinking.

    • Is it true?
    • What evidence do you have around that fear?
    • What could you learn that might make this all seem easier?
    • Who could support you?
    • What would be a better way of thinking about this, that would empower you rather than hold you back?
  3. Use the Circle of Control/Influence

    Consider using Stephen Covey’s Circle of Control or Influence. If you haven’t heard of it, think of an archery target with three circles. The central circle – the bullseye, and the two outer circles.

    In circle one, the bullseye, you list all of the things that are within your control.

    In circle two, you list all of the things that you can influence.

    In circle three, the outer circle, you list all of the things that you can’t control.

    This is such a simple, yet amazing little tool for helping you to work through your fear. When you place your different areas of concern in the circles, you will be able to release some of the fear as you will realise there are only certain things within your control that you can actually manage or influence.

    So, let’s get that crown shining again. Clear the fear in your business, so that you can run your Queendom with confidence.

    Be the Queen with knees knocking, and still take action, knowing that fear is absolutely okay. On a side note, I have been in the place where I’ve literally had my knees knocking in a presentation when I was doing my HR degree, so when I talk about knees knocking I mean literally and figuratively.

    Before I go, let’s do a quick recap to shift that fear: 

    1. Write down what you’re feeling fearful about
    2. Challenge your fear with some questions
    3. Use the circle of control/influence to guide you

PS. If you want to clear your fear, and other limiting beliefs around your business, while having some fun obviously, book a Dolly Magic Session (which is an EDT Session) with me. My clients are getting some amazing results and feeling on top of the world, just like the Queens they were born to be.

Until next time, ciao for now!

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5 Things To Do When Life Feels Uncertain

In this blog post. I’m going to share 5 things to do when life feels uncertain

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Do you find that you’re feeling quite fearful right now? With everything going on in the world it’s natural to feel unsettled. I know I have. It’s a time to trust in the process of life. Yes, do the planning, the preparation and take the action, but then trust that everything is happening exactly as it’s meant to be.

I’ve personally been going through a period of transformation, and I’ve been thinking about what it is I’ve been doing. I’ve realised for me this has been a time of 5 R’s. I’m going to share them with you:

     1. A time to … Reframe

One of the things I like to do, and do it all the time, much to the annoyance of people that like to complain – is to reframe.

For example, I don’t like the restrictive feeling around the word, ‘Lockdown’, so it’s been renamed in our house. It’s now called a 🌺 Spring Retreat 🌺 Lockdown has such a negative vibe. Not for me!

Reframe this new version of the world we’re currently in, start to notice how you can feel more positive about what’s going on. Maybe it’s a Spring Retreat for you too, maybe it gives you chance to learn some new things online, or dance, sing, play more. There will be some positives, if only you take the time to look for them.

     2. A time to … Retreat

You may have found yourself hiding away, and that’s okay. Perhaps you’ve been over cautious, worried what people might say if you’re out there promoting your business, when there are so many other things to be focusing on. It’s okay as a Queen to retreat, in fact I’d say it’s a vital part of running your Queendom. You will be an all round better leader when you take time to fill up your own goblet, before helping others fill theirs. (My ‘Queen’ role model/inspiration is Medieval, hence the goblet. No chopping off heads in my world though!)

As a leader, aka a Queen, you need to be pro-active and not re-active. You also need to know when it’s time to slow things down.

I’ve been in a place of full stop, never mind slowing down, when it comes to my blog posts. I’ve been trusting I’ll have the right thing to say at the right time. I knew I needed to retreat, rather than step in to sharing too much too soon.

When you retreat, new ideas come forward. You’ll know when it’s time to come out of your safe space, invite in optimism and start planning for brighter things to come.

     3. It’s a time to … Recharge

I said in a Facebook post recently, that sometimes you need to step back to step forward, particularly when you’re a Queen. How often do you take the time to recharge?

One of my coaches helped me realise I hadn’t taken a break for nearly two years, so I took a week off, and I have another week off planned very soon. The step back allows you to review what’s working, what’s not, and to replenish yourself. I always say that if you were working for someone else, you’d take time out for holidays, days off etc.

Now is the perfect time to restore your soul, to do all of those things that light you up. What lights you up?

Lots of people are cleaning, decorating and gardening. All wonderful things to do, but what about you? What do you need to recharge you?

For me it’s all things creative, card-making, crochet, doodling, Bullet Journalling, gardening and pottering around the house. Add in some beautiful walks in nature, Qi Gong, dancing, HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training), lots of reading, some standard journalling and of course many, many cups of cappuccino. That all fills me up, so that I’m ready to serve again.

     4. It’s a time to … Reflect

While these times are weird, for sure, they are also the perfect opportunity to spend some time reflecting on what really matters in your life and your business.

As a Queen you want to be your best when you put yourself out there, and that means taking great care of yourself.

We’ve just been watching the second half of the New Amsterdam series (a hospital drama). A Trauma Surgeon has just been introduced to the series, and he was sharing how taking time for his self-care is the best way he can show up for his patients. It was initially frowned upon by a colleague, until he explained why it was so important. While it might seem counter-intuitive, sometimes it’s absolutely THE number one best thing you can do to serve your clients in the best way.

Be gentle and kind to yourself, celebrate how far you’ve come and all that you’ve achieved, both internally and externally. Be mindful of the words you choose right now, whether that’s for you or others.

While you’re probably used to working from home, things may have changed for you, particularly if you have young family to think about, or perhaps you’re spending more time with your other half. Be kind to yourself as you go through a period of adjustment.

Thankfully, my hubby and I get on very well, so we are really enjoying the downtime together. I say downtime, he gets a list of daily jobs to do, I kick butt at home too, haha. Don’t worry, I do my fair share as well!

As part of my transformation, I’ve been doing some work with two lovely coaches – Debi Haden & Janine Kathleen Shapiro, and here are two key things I’ve learned from them over the past couple of weeks, one of the areas we’ve worked on was another one of my 5 R’s.

     5. It’s a time to … Release

Debi: Release anything that no longer serves you. If it’s a ‘should’ or ‘must’, then ask yourself why you’re doing it.

Janine: What parts of your life feel heavy?

These are things we already know and, like me, you possibly even work with clients on this, but sometimes we need others to help us move forward. When you go a lot deeper on this, you find out so much more about yourself than you expected. As a Queen, you don’t need to hold onto things that don’t serve you. Banish them from your Queendom entirely and free up some space for lots of fabulous new things to come in.

You won’t need to feel afraid of letting things go, when you trust. You may well have heard the phrase of the opposite of fear being love. It never quite resonated with me. I realised recently, that for me the opposite of fear is trust. Trusting the process of life, trusting that everything happens exactly as it’s meant to, trusting the universe to provide. Fear dissipates when you have this level of trust.

The universe is still supporting you, the universe is still listening, there is still no limit to all that you can experience, even right now. Especially right now, as you take the time to reframe, rest, recharge and reflect – exploring more about who you are and what you want in your life. Maybe you’ll also realise that you need a retreat too.

Remember the universe has a plan for you, are you listening?

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Do You Really Want What You’re Chasing?

Have you ever set a goal that you reach only to find it isn’t really what you thought it would be?

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This can happen so often in business.

One big thing that comes up with a lot of my clients is where they think they want a particular type of business and then wish they’d done something completely different.

It can be easy to fall into the trap of doing a business to ‘chase the money’, but if that chasing the money doesn’t bring happiness, you may as well go and get a ‘proper job’. Today we’re going to do some funky goal setting. Let’s make those goals exciting and enticing.

Whenever I chat with clients/potential clients I take them through 5 steps to getting clarity around their business model. I start by asking them to really connect with what they are passionate about. We then explore if their passion matches their skill set and then we’ve got a better foundation to work from.

So often people start building programmes for who they think they ‘should’ work with, instead of doing the ground work to ensure they have the passion in the first place and are really clear on who their dreamie clients are and what they’re struggling with.

It’s time to do a bit of FUNKY goal setting.

F is for FABULOUS

Your goal needs to totally excite you and I mean really have you feeling exhilarated inside. You’re not going for mediocre here, you’re going all out and aiming as high as you can, stretching up on your tiptoes to see how amazing your future can be, once you can just squeeze outside of your comfort zone. If it’s not feeling fabulous, why? What can you do to tweak it so that it thrills the life out of you? Who do you look at and think, ‘I wish my life was like that’? Use those feelings to guide you in your decision to set goals. Sometimes jealousy can be a good indicator of what you really want. If you’re jealous of someone else, it can show you what you really desire.

What will it mean to you to achieve this goal? How will life/you be different when you reach it?

That little nagging voice saying to you, ‘Yeah, well this is all well and good but you didn’t make it last time’, or ‘How do you know it will work?,’ or ‘It’s too big a goal for you, you don’t deserve it.’ Kick those naughty mindset monkeys into touch. That’s your fear talking and the sooner you work through it the quicker you will realise your goals.

U is for UNSHAKEABLE

• Be REALLY clear about what your goal is, use all of your senses to figure it out. What will it look like, feel like, smell like, taste like?
• Your goal needs to be exactly that… YOUR goal, not someone else’s goal for you
• Thinking about your role model what it is that they do consistently that gets them that life that you desire?
• Plan out the steps you need to put into place to make sure this absolutely happens
• Write down what/who would get in your way of achieving your goal
• Be real here, if you want to be an international swimmer and you’re scared of water it may take a bit longer to get there, but it doesn’t mean you can’t – it’s all about small changes
• Build in contingency plans – life doesn’t always go according to plan, we might be too tired/busy/poorly so build in that extra time to cover it so that you still remain on course
• Assume it’s yours, you’ve achieved it! Trick your mind into thinking it’s already yours and you will be amazed at how things change

N is for NOW

ACTIONS speak louder than words

• There’s no point just writing down your goals (did I say that written goals are much more effective) and taking no action. You have to DO something about them
• Yes there may be challenges along the way, but these can provide you with valuable feedback and opportunities to grow
• Stop putting it off. It may feel scary but when you’re looking back at your life when you’re 80 which was worse, fear or regret?
• An overused (but still good) quote is that a dream without a deadline is just an idea, so once you’ve set your goal, made it unshakeable, work on when you are going to get it done by and set some mini steps to get there.
• Go out there and make it happen… Start NOW

K is for KEEP – KEEP AT IT

• Every single day I want you to take one small step towards your goal, even if only 10-15 minutes
• Commit now, ‘I will spend 10-15 minutes every day working towards… / growing my business’ etc
• Sometimes the hardest part is just starting – by doing a small amount each day it gets easier because your confidence grows and your momentum kicks in
• Often once you start you find yourself doing more and more because you enjoy it
• Build in accountability – who will ensure you stay focused / check in with you to see how you’re doing / help you work out what’s next?
• Create a network of support around you so that on those days you want to give up someone will be there cheering you on to keep going (friends are great, but it’s actually better if it’s a business buddy / colleague / coach or action group)

So keep at it, every single day and you will start to see results!

This is the YES of commitment.

You’ve set your goal, it’s FABULOUS, it’s unshakeable, you’re going to take action NOW, you plan to keep the momentum going and it’s time to 100% commit and say YES ! I CAN and WILL do this.

If you want things to stay the same then do nothing. If you want things to change commit now, to yourself (in writing if it helps). You can set as many amazing goals as you like, but if you don’t commit to following through on them they are just meaningless lists.

Commit to your goals and set your intentions and then watch the magic happen.

Is it FABULOUS?
Is it UNSHAKEABLE?
What can you start NOW?
How will you KEEP the momentum going?
Say YES, commit to your goal 100%

With all of this in mind, check in with yourself. Is this really a goal you want to be chasing? If not, then that’s what you’ve got to change first.

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Are You Ready To Take The Lead, As Queen, Of Your Biz?

The idea of being a leader, aka Queen of your business, might terrify you!

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I believe that when you read a message, you’re reading it at the perfect time, so on that basis, I believe that if you’re receiving this message right now, it’s your time to step up as a leader, a Queen of your business, whether you feel ready or not.

It’s likely that you already have a tribe/community/following of people that look up to you, and enjoy what you do. They are waiting for you to really lead them.

You have everything you need to be a Queen right now. It’s just a simple decision. It doesn’t mean there won’t be hard work and future challenges involved, but the decision itself to lead is an easy one.

If you’re ready to step up as a Queen, then decide today to do that, and then explore how.

You may not feel you have the knowledge/experience yet to lead your Queendom. Queens of Business develop their knowledge and skills, so that they can stand in front of their people as strong leaders.

Start by sharing your stories, your vulnerabilities, your strengths. You’re doing what you do because it’s part of your life purpose. Don’t worry about being the expert right now, lead anyway. A bit like preparing for having kids, you’ll never be ready!

Instead of using your mind to worry about how you’re not ready, use it to develop the skills you need to become the best Queen you can be.

Show your people that you can be trusted to lead them.

Be honest about the skills you need to develop.

I read a book a while back (sorry, I can’t remember which one it was!) It said that if you “read for one hour a day on your topic area, within a year you’ll know more than 90% than others. Google it, research it, find out who leaders, movers and shakers are, read what they say and study RSS feeds.”

What that tells you is that leadership is something you can learn. You can model others’ behaviour, learn all about your topic, and become a master at what you do.

You have the potential to become a great Queen, regardless of where you’re at right now. It’s just a skill you can develop. As you step into the role of Queen more and more each day, you’ll slowly become the Queen you want to be.

This isn’t about being dishonest, it’s about stepping up and building your Queen skills along the way.

One of my clients was talking about being a little girl and wanting to wear her princess dress, and that despite it feeling too big, she still wore it anyway.

This is like stepping up as a Queen in your business. The dress might not feel like it fits … YET, but over time you’ll evolve, grow and develop your skills, and you’ll realise how far you’ve come. The dress (and crown) will fit!

You have so much to offer in your business. Now is the time to step up. Use your amazing resources to teach, motivate and inspire your dreamie clients and build your beautiful Queendom.

If you’re not sure where to start, book a Queen call with me and let me help you pull together a fabulous battle plan so that you know exactly what you need to do. There is so much you can create and attract into your business, you may just need another Queen like me to help you pull together a solid plan to make it happen.

As the lovely Adrienne Dorison recently said in one of her newsletters, it’s not all about just bringing in sales into your business, there are other things you need to do.

I believe that sales, of course, are incredibly important, but you also need to know how to lead your community as you bring them in. That way you get to win and keep your dreamie clients.

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As A Queen You Need To Practice Patience To Grow Your Business

I mentioned in my last podcast that my version of a Queen is a medieval one. When you think about how things were communicated in those days, it could take days to get a message through to someone. Sometimes it was on foot, other times on horseback. There was no super quick email or social media platform to get the word out.

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You wouldn’t have been able to go online and order something with next day delivery. You’d have to wait. We’re not used to waiting for things now, so it makes us even more impatient wanting our businesses to grow quickly overnight.

As a Queen you need to practice patience. You might share your message, but it might not be received immediately. The timing might be out, or you might need to get in front of different people who love what you do.

I’ve been playing a game recently around delayed gratification. Whether it’s delaying eating a piece of chocolate, drinking yet another vanilla cappuccino (Yes I know, I need to cut back) or buying something. I’m enjoying playing with the feeling around excitement, spending time looking forward to adding that thing into my life. It’s a really interesting experiment, give it a go! You may find it harder than you think because we’re so used to everything being instant.

Building your Queendom takes time.

Building your Queendom takes work.

Building your Queendom takes consistency.

The project you’re working on today, this week, this month, could be the one that creates amazing success further down the line, but we give up because it isn’t happening quick enough. We want faster results.

I know when I first started out as a coach I wanted to help people get transformation in one standalone session. I can do that now, but I know that the magic happens when there are many sessions, via 1:1 or group, because transformation takes time. As one of my lovely coaches reminded me recently, caterpillars don’t turn into butterflies overnight. There’s a process.

There will be many a battle plan that you set up that doesn’t give you the outcome you hoped for. That’s okay.

There will be many a project that you wish would create that ‘overnight’ success, but projects take time.

Think of a seed, it doesn’t grow instantly, it needs attention, sun, rain, nurturing, yada yada. It’s growing underneath the surface, you just can’t see it yet.

Maybe that’s where you are with your business. You’re doing the work, but there’s only a tiny sprout of growth showing. That’s okay – be patient.

Accept where you are today in your business. Know that as a Queen you can choose to be patient, and trust that every action step you take (providing you design and execute your battle plan well) will take you nearer to creating your next level of business success.

And luckily, unlike our medieval Queen, you do have tools at your disposal that can help you communicate your message much quicker!

Keep practicing patience Queenie, you’ve got this!

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You Need To Change How You Do Business When You’re A Queen

When you step into the role of Queen you need to change how you do business.

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You can no longer be all things to all people.

You can’t constantly give away your time, without being paid. You’re running a business dahlinks.

You need to set clear boundaries around what you will and won’t do.

Having a really solid business model will serve you well, so you are really clear about what you will and won’t take on.

The other thing that will help you as a Queen is learning how and when to use the word, ‘No’!

When you run a service-based business, you want to be of service, and that’s great. But at what cost? In order to master your business as a Queen, you need to make sure that you’re smart with your time, strategic with your action, and focused when you do work.

Sometimes you need to set boundaries for yourself, as it’s not others who are the problem, it’s you! You’re a Queen, but you’re also trying to do every single job in your business, and all that leads to is burnout.

So, if you’re sitting at your desk or on your sofa answering emails at 11pm at night , you’re training your clients to expect you to be available 24/7 (figuratively, not literally). If you don’t want to work at 11pm at night, then something has to change. It starts with not replying to emails at 11pm at night (unless you’re a night owl and that’s when you want to work).

Another example that a lot of my Queenies (clients) love is that I only work Monday to Thursday as a general rule. No evenings, no weekends. It’s something I chose to do a few years ago. It means that when I do work, my time is very focused, and it means I get a life outside of my business too. Boundaries.

Now you might be thinking that if you set boundaries with your clients you’ll lose them, or they’ll fall out of love with you. The reality is some of them might, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t set them. Some people actually like boundaries – and people respect you when you have defined lines that cannot be crossed.

Sometimes it can help to have a few phrases to hand, whether it’s a reply to an invite to work with someone else, or a client approaching you with a problem. Here’s a few ways you can set simple boundaries:

  1.  “I no longer do free work, but you can check out my free resources here…” [add link]
  2.  “I only do paid speaking gigs. If you want to know the kind of topics I deliver, here’s a link to my Speaker page…” [add link]
  3.  “I only work Monday to Thursday, and don’t work evenings or weekends. I’m happy to work with you during any of those times. Here’s my diary link …” [add link]
  4.  “I no longer have time to do free trainings in other people’s groups, but here’s a link to some training I delivered for my own tribe. Feel free to share it with your group …” [add link]
  5.  “I no longer have time to do coffee meet ups. If you’re looking for some support though, here’s how you can work with me … “[add link]
  6.  “It’s really kind of you to think of me. I like to give projects my 100% commitment and right now my priority is ‘x’, so I wouldn’t have the time to dedicate to it and give it the full attention it deserves.”
  7.  It’s not something that feels like a good fit for me but I could put you in touch with ….”

Here’s a few reasons why you want to consider setting boundaries:

You are a Queen, you need to retain control of your kingdom (not in a ruthless way, but so you feel like you’re mastering your business instead of others ruling it)

You will be nicer to know! (Grumpy Queens aren’t great to be around. Working too hard is no good for anyone)

You will get time to do things you love (ooh, what could you do with that extra time?)

You will feel more confident (knowing that you are honouring yourself, your family/friends and also teaching your clients/others how to be strict with their own boundaries)

So give boundary setting a go! If you work on your boundaries, you’re going to have to re-train your clients so they understand what is/isn’t acceptable to you. It’s tough, not for the faint hearted, but it’s oh so liberating! And hey, you’re a Queen, you CAN do this!

Action This Week: Spend some time thinking about the boundaries you need to set in your business. Where are you giving your time away? Where are you overworking? What needs to change? Make the changes and then you’ll have time to do your royal duties.

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What’s Your Definition of A Queen?

As I shared in my podcast last week, I’m going to be talking to you about becoming Queen of your business.

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I’ve been running my own business for many years now and don’t know about you, but I’m tired of seeing everyone in the online world sharing their ‘blueprint’ for overnight success. The truth is, there is no magic solution, you’ve got to put the work in honey!

If you’re anything like me, then running a business has triggered every limiting belief you’ve ever had (and those you didn’t even know you had) For me, it’s been a rollercoaster journey of both excitement and fear. What’s been a game-changer for me and my clients is working on mindset as well as business. (You’re amazing by the way, not many people can do what we do!)

What I’ve learned over the years in this long-term game of business, is that you need to step up, to be a leader of your business, a Queen.

I want to help you to start thinking like a Queen of your business, but what’s your definition of a Queen?

Now my version of a Queen is a medieval one. My Queen is dressed in all of her refinery, beaded gowns, stunning gem filled crowns and exquisite pieces of jewellery. She has a presence that can’t be unseen, she is confident in what she does. She seeks counsel, and has an entourage of support but ultimately makes brave decisions and can be relied upon to lead her people.

In one of my Queen of Business Mastermind groups, I asked this question and got so many different replies.

One client couldn’t get Queen Elizabeth out of her head.

Another had Beyoncé as her Queen.

Someone else was thinking more about Daenerys, the Dragon Queen in the Game of Thrones.

When you become a Queen of your business, you get to choose what type of Queen that is.

When I wrote my profile on LinkedIn here’s how I defined a Queen:

  • One that takes strategic and brave action, not just any action.
  • One that has clear boundaries, and isn’t afraid to make tough decisions.
  • One that stands up in front of her people, despite any fears going on underneath.
  • One that ditches the self-doubt, knows her worth and owns it.
  • A Queen that shows up, no matter what.
Okay, so that’s some of the things that I think of when I think of a Queen. I also think of things like:
  • Strategic Vision
  • Authenticity
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • Problem Solving
  • Managing a team
  • Decisiveness

And so much more. All topics we’ll be talking about in future podcasts.

Today, I invite you to write a list of all of the qualities you believe you need as a Queen. I’d love you to drop me an email telling me what you come up with. I’ve popped my email in the show notes for you

Today, decide to be the Queen of your business, to create a success mindset and to build your royal empire one step at a time. You’ve got this!

I’m Changing How I Do Business

If you read my blog post a little while ago, you’ll know I was struggling for a while with direction in my business, and I guess life in general since my ‘little’ princess left home to go to university. I recently shared this on my blog, but haven’t shared it on my podcast, and now it’s time..

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I spent a lot of time working on what I wanted, and I have done a lot of soul searching this year.

For the first part of the year, I created a 1:1 90-day programme where I took my clients through a specific process of building/growing their business and working on mindset blocks. Everyone loved it.

It was really great fun, but where I was working with 14 clients a week, it started to take its toll, especially where some of those calls were 90-minutes and more. I found I had little time left in the week, which kind of wasn’t what I wanted to create, albeit fun. Be careful what you wish for!

So back to the drawing board, over and over again! Have you ever been like that in biz? I seem to reinvent things every few years. Someone told me once that I’m like Madonna, I just like to reinvent myself.

So what’s next?

I realised that the key things I love are training, coaching and mentoring, so they weren’t going anywhere.

I also realised that I love working with groups. I love the energy, the connection, the banter and the results people get when they work together.

I’ve been batting off new potential projects left, right and centre, where I want to really keep my business model super simple. I’ve closed my Rock Your Visibility group programme and cleared the decks for these 2 things:

I’ve created many training programmes over the years, and rather than retire them because I believe they do still have value, I’ve decided to offer them all on my Resources page so that people can pick and you can choose what you need for your business. A lot of the programmes are great if you’re fairly new to business and/or are working to a budget.

Having moved to Scotland, I’d wondered whether I would run some local workshops in the area. I’ve made the decision not to do that either. I realised I want to ‘live’ up here, not ‘work’ up here, and just enjoy my time in the community instead. I may do some freelance training and speaking but not working 1:1.

Lots of change, but it feels really good for right now. I can’t say I won’t change my mind again in the future. Hey, I’m a woman, I get to change my mind whenever I like 😉 I think it’s a good thing that we evolve as business owners, don’t you?

If you’ve known me for a while, then you’ll know I love to KISS – Keep It Simple Sweetie, and I realised I wasn’t doing that. With this new way of working, I will be.

Going forward I’m going to be talking about you being a Queen of your Business, so while visibility is obviously important, it’s going to be one of the pillars that I work with, rather than the main thing. My focus is going to be about business mastery, leadership, mindset and manifesting with the Law of Attraction. You’re essentially the CEO aka Queen of your business. I’m going to hep you feel and behave like one. I’ll be sharing how to uplevel – your mindset and your business.

You need to create a success mindset if you want to succeed, and you need the leadership qualities of a Queen and you to step up as a Queen to be seen. If my message no longer resonates with you, then I completely understand if you want to unsubscribe from my show, and I wish you every success with your business going forward. I do hope you’ll hang around though 🙂

I’ve been asked if I’ll still work with guys, and the answer is ‘yes’. It will just be with short, sharp 1:1 laser coaching sessions though, as my client base is 95% female, hence creating the Queen of Business groups. My focus is going to be mainly group work, with the odd 1:1 session on top of that, rather than how I have been running things.

I’m still figuring it all out, but over the coming months, I’ll be shifting how I talk about things with a focus on being a Queen of your business, creating a success mindset and using Law of Attraction in your business and life.

I’m looking forward to this exciting new part of my business journey, and sharing some different content with you. Visibility will still play its part, as I believe that’s vital for us as business owners.

Here’s to a fun new chapter of Rock Your Fabulous Biz! I hope you’ll be joining me.

What To Do When You Start To Hate Social Media

I’ve been debating whether to write this post / record this podcast. It’s a vulnerable post, which as we know isn’t so comfortable.

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I’m not just sharing my vulnerability here though, because I’m telling you something that I teach my clients. To get your business seen you need to be visible.

Now here’s the problem, I was kind of done with being visible! I was ‘over’ social media. I was sick of showing up on social media day in, day out, tired of all of the advertising and the ‘buy me’ promoting, bored with being consistent and wondering what it was all about, this ‘machine’ that takes over our lives.

I’ve noticed it’s not just me that’s tired of social media, it seems that more and more people are finding it exhausting and not how they want to do business. Lush being one company recently saying they are coming off social media and Leonie Dawson saying how she’s tired of it too. It can be relentless. BUT we do have a choice in how we play. We don’t have to push ourselves so hard. We get to set boundaries and ‘work it’ how we want to.

In contrast to my recent ‘I hate social media phase’ though, I’m very aware of how amazing social media is. If it wasn’t for social media I wouldn’t have a business, not a successful one anyway. Facebook has been the lifeblood of my business over the past few years. I’m starting to enjoy it again, but I needed to take a break.

A break to recharge.

A break to reflect.

A break to process.

I still showed up for clients, but I didn’t do Facebook Lives, I didn’t do that many blog posts. I didn’t ‘do’ visibility that much at all really.

We had a life-changing year last year, with two house moves, one ending up with a move from England to Scotland, my husband leaving his full-time job to run his own self-employed business, moving from a busy town life into the middle of nowhere and leaving behind many beautiful friends. Add to that our youngest moving to London to go to Uni and empty nest syndrome kicking in.

It’s brought up a lot of emotions, mostly the empty nest syndrome being the hardest to be honest. I’ve found it way tougher than I thought it would be, and I miss my ‘little girl’ like crazy.

There have been times when it’s been incredibly lonely. You can’t just pop to a local cafe very easily when you live up here, and it takes time to build friendships.

There aren’t the same numbers of local networking events that you can go to, so you have to create your own way of connecting with business owners. Online is lovely, but when you live in a remote area you need offline connections too. Even more so when your top values are connection, as in my case.

I became a hermit for a little while, and felt incredibly sad, ‘grieving’ my little girl no longer living at home.

Put it this way, there have been many times when I’ve cried by the tumble drier after a visit from her, and finding the odd lost sock that she’s left behind (why do we always end up with odd socks?!!)

I fell out of love with social media.

I knew there must be a different way.

I was bored with my content.

I had nothing to say.

So I didn’t say much at all.

It’s been tough, but it’s equally been refreshing not living and breathing social media.

In an interview I did a while back with the fabulous Alexandra Franzen, we talked about how one of her blog posts really got me thinking. She’d worked out that if she carried on at the pace she was going, she would have lost 3.2 or 3.4 years of her life to Twitter alone.

I’ve personally made the decision to come off Twitter. I don’t enjoy it and it doesn’t bring me clients – Two things I always say you should consider when choosing a social media platform. (I can’t quite bring myself to hitting delete on my account though, so I’m getting my lovely VA to do it!!)

So, what do you do when you completely lose interest in marketing your business?

Check in on what’s going on – Ask yourself if you’ve lost complete interest in your business or if you need a change.

Keep the content rolling out – That way you can decide when to show up.

Do a LOT of soul searching – Why do you want to run your business? What excites you? Who do you love to work with? What’s the real problem?

Talk to people about how you’re feeling – I talked with friends. Many friends. They were amazing (you know who you are!)

Mix things up a bit – I did lots of things unrelated to business. (I am growing veggies, gardening and about to check chickens people – who is this new woman who’s moved to Scotland?!)

Slow down – I still plotted and planned, but in a calm way.

Create a daily routine to allow some thinking space – I started meditation and doing Qi Gong daily.

Think about the bigger picture. I started creating a vision board about what I really want. That bit was tough. At first I didn’t know what I really wanted. I just felt incredibly sad, and really lost. Over time I started to pull together some ideas.

Get help – I coached myself, I got coached.

Release any emotion around it – It’s okay to feel how you do, let it all out. Emotional release is a strength, not failure – I cried. A lot.

Be gentle with yourself – I’m coming out the other side now, and ready to show up more, but I’ve learned that I can be gentle with myself.

Give yourself permission – I am giving myself permission to stop when it’s just not happening.

I am giving myself permission to let go of any beliefs around how you ‘should’ run a business.

I am giving myself permission to focus on only 3 main things each day, and honestly, that is liberating!! It’s amazing how much you focus your mind when you only allow yourself three things to do.

Trust that this too shall pass – When the time is right you will know what you need to do.

So, I’m back! A different, perhaps calmer, and wiser version of me now. The one that knows it’s okay to have a business AND a life, and that you get to create it all on your own terms.

Remember to check out my Visibility Quiz to find out whether you’re a Visibility Lady, Countess, Princess or Queen. If you’re a guy then please change the names to Lord, Count, Prince and King) Once you’ve got your score I’d love for you to come on over to my pinned post on my business page and tell me what score you got. There’s a chance to win a little prize each month.

Do This To Create Real Focus In Your Business Each Week

In today’s blog post, do you find that sometimes you’re super productive and then other times there seem to be a million and one things drawing your attention in different directions?

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Maybe your distraction is checking in on emails, you can’t avoid those little red pop up notifications catching your eye, or you get caught up in social media.

I have a mantra for this year: “Make the plan. Stick to the plan!” It’s way too easy to get sucked into other projects/opportunities that take you away from your overall goals.

I’ve had a few things that have really helped me keep control over what I’m doing.

  1. I read The One Thing by Gary Keller – a fabulous book. No guesses for what the focus is on in this book! You could argue that you don’t need to read it really as it’s just all about focusing on one thing, however, it’s totally worth a read. It really shifted my thinking around how I work day to day
  1. I read another book called The 12 Week Year by Brian Moran – This was a game changer for me. It’s basically where your work year is divided into 12-weeks. Now I can’t get my around there being 4 years in 1 year that they talk about in the book, but I do work now in 12 week blocks. I LOVE the short, sharp focus of goal setting and focused projects during that time. Week 13 is for review.

As a result of all of the above I create super strict boundaries for my work now. I only work on 3 different areas at a time; 2 business and 1 personal usually.

If you want to get ahead in your business here’s a super simple 7-step strategy to keep that focus:

  1. Spend some time planning

Plan out what you’d like to achieve in 12 weeks (If you’re not sure what your goals are check out my Coaching Tools Company blog post where I share how to create goals in 90-minutes or less 

  1. Decide what your top 3 priorities are and work in ‘Espressos’ – My version of sprints

If you’ve not heard of sprints, they are where you set really clear goals for a 2-week block of time, and then take action to achieve them. Having short blocks to work within keeps the motivation and momentum going, rather than feeling overwhelmed. I personally don’t call them ‘Sprints’. I’m not really sporty, and I like coffee so mine are called Espressos of course! Thanks to Sophie Jewry for coming up with that name for me!

I also find it a bit challenging doing a 2-week block as I find I do less in week one and then panic in week 2 where I’m so behind lol, so my Espressos are all a week each.

  1. Each day decide what your top 3 priorities are

(Your MITs – Top Most Important Tasks. I learned about these from Leonie Dawson many years ago, but I think they might have originated from Stephen Covey. Let me know if you know the original source. Always make sure your 3 priorities help you achieve your overall 12-week plan.

  1. Block out time in your diary for each of those 3 priorities and work ONLY on those priorities.

I learned about time blocking many years ago from my friend, Geraldine Kelly, Once you’ve hit your 3 priorities you can move onto the next ones.

  1. Add in a buffer for unexpected eventualities

We can’t always guarantee something won’t come up so add in some buffer time (and no, that buffer time is not for you to watch more cat videos on Facebook, teehee!) Getting really good with your boundaries will help you with this one though. I’ve got lots of articles over on my blog around boundaries. 

Are You Being Wishy Washy With Your Boundaries?

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  1. Review your progress at the end of the day.

What worked? What didn’t? What can you do differently tomorrow?

  1. Spend a few minutes planning out your next day

It’s way too easy to get distracted at the start of a new day. By planning in advance you’re ready to hit the ground running.

If you decided to have a play with this super simple 7-step strategy to help you keep your focus, let me know how you get on. I’d love to hear from you.

If you want to know what it’s like to work with me 1:1, book a Crack-It Call where I’ll work with you for 20-minutes to help you crack one area of your business. You’ll be amazed at what we can resolve in just 20-minutes together. Find out more here.

PS. links mentioned on the blog/podcast may be affiliate links, but that I only share when I totally LOVE something and have personally used it myself.

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